C'est la vie
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What is the name of your state? CA
My ex boyfriend who I dated for less than 2 months filed a RO on me for email threats. I felt that it was rash, uncessary (I live 50 miles away) and so I hired an attorney. I went to court, and he had a lawyer and also wanted to press criminal charges against me. Originally he didn't want to agree to civil compromise, so my lawyer prepared me for the courtroom. Everything I said she shot down, based on how the court would view it. What he is really mad about was finding out I had an std, but he had date raped me when I was intoxicated. I went with depression as my defense, and he agreed to the civil order but I would have to go to counseling and pay his attorney fees of $2500. I feel really in a corner now, and feel like just taking the restraining order. However the judge already told us to come to an agreement, and I am scared he will file criminal charges if I go solo. Should I keep my lawyer, or should I risk it with the judge? I feel it's alot of money to defend myself from this guy who was abusive to me in first place. I feel trapped and need an unbiased opinion.....I feel lawyers just want to keep it going on.
My ex boyfriend who I dated for less than 2 months filed a RO on me for email threats. I felt that it was rash, uncessary (I live 50 miles away) and so I hired an attorney. I went to court, and he had a lawyer and also wanted to press criminal charges against me. Originally he didn't want to agree to civil compromise, so my lawyer prepared me for the courtroom. Everything I said she shot down, based on how the court would view it. What he is really mad about was finding out I had an std, but he had date raped me when I was intoxicated. I went with depression as my defense, and he agreed to the civil order but I would have to go to counseling and pay his attorney fees of $2500. I feel really in a corner now, and feel like just taking the restraining order. However the judge already told us to come to an agreement, and I am scared he will file criminal charges if I go solo. Should I keep my lawyer, or should I risk it with the judge? I feel it's alot of money to defend myself from this guy who was abusive to me in first place. I feel trapped and need an unbiased opinion.....I feel lawyers just want to keep it going on.