Few days ago my boyfriend (or ex-boyfirend better) of 2 years got into an argument. As a result of it he hit me, pushed me on the floor, sat on top of me, trying to hurt me more. My neck was slightly bruised. I was defending myself and scratched his chest slightly as well. All that happened in the presence of my 8 year old son, who was in the room at the moment. I grabbed the phone and wanted to call the police, but the boyfirend wripped the phone out of my hands, and left the appartment with my cell phone. This kind of domestic violence happened to us for the second time, but it was the first time that I actualy decided to put an end to it. All this happened around midnight. Next morning I went straight to the police department and filed a report. The restraining order was granted by the Judge immediately, and criminal charges (assault) were put against my B/F. It is relevant to mention that B/F has a criminal history records.
He was arrested by police within 24 hours and bailed himself out.
The next day after he bailed himself out he filed a complaint against me stating that it was me who assaulted him, that he was a victim of me - not visa versa. He told me that he is hiring an attorney and will be prosecuting me for a false arrest, bail, and of course assault.
In a couple of days we have a court appearing regarding restraining order in a family law. I want to keep the temporary order and get a permanent!
Few days after the family court hearing we have to appear in criminal court regarding our both criminal charges against each other. My B/F contacted me, violating restraining order by the way, and is now begging me on his knees and on behalf of all his family to dropp criminal charges against him.
Finally - my questions:
Can I keep a restraining order from him? (dont want him near around me or my son), if I decide to drop the criminal charges and save his ass from jail??
If i decide to drop charges - am I going to be fined or penalized?
If I dont drop charges can he have a case against me? (he told that if I drop my charges - he will drop his).
Thank you for advise!