Filed for a restraining order after being violently raped by husband. Charges filed. Also cited history of abuse, including police report case numbers.
Husband responds to restraining order and includes confession to rape, confession to knocking out three of my teeth. Denies everything else.
Judge orders mediation. Husband uses opportunity to intimidate, then grabs me and hugs me in front of mediator and won’t let go. To me, this is a violation of the restraining order. Also confesses to rape and taunts me about it in front of mediator. Demands I take back restraining order. Mediator does nothing, reports nothing. Husband says nothing about child, entire time, other than to say he will settle for nothing less than 50/50 custody. Mediator recommends to court supervised visitation that requires me to travel from Humboldt County once a month so he can see his son, who he abuses when he isn’t ignoring him, for four hours, two days in a row.
Husband closed joint bank account. It was my only account. He maintains his own accounts. He has never worked, I have provided all of the money. Husband sold my car without my permission. I have no money and no car and no ability to get either because of him. He has held onto all of my possessions and our son’s possessions and refuses to return them through intermediaries. He admitted this to the judge, citing the reason that he wants to get back together.
The day he received the restraining order, he attempted to contact me and his family contacted me to complain about the RO, all of them specifically mentioning the RO. Reported to the police immediately. They did nothing.
After mediation, he knew where I was going to be and waited for me with him and his friend. Also reported immediately and the police have done nothing.
On Christmas Eve, he called the Sheriff’s department in Humboldt, failed to mention that he had an RO, and asked them to check on his son and provide them with his son’s location. Reported then and there to the police. The police have done nothing.
Attempted to press charges on rape, provided hand written confession on the court documentation. Police have done nothing.
Attempted to press charges on assault based on hand written confession of him knocking out my three front teeth. Police have done nothing.
Filed for divorce in Humboldt County because the judge ordered us to file for divorce, together, in San Diego. I ran to San Diego after being raped. I left San Diego the moment he violated the RO, back to Humboldt. Judge accused me of playing games. Judge has ordered another mediation. Last one lasted for 5 hours with no agreements. Filed formal complaint against mediator. Judge expressed his anger at that, but admitted the court was wrong to put us in the same room together. Judge also admitted that he considered the response to include two confessions. It is in the court transcript.
Judge demanded I hand over US passport. The father was not ordered to hand over son’s Uruguayan passport. Husband admitted, to the mediator, that he obtained a Uruguayan passport in secret and marked himself as “unmarried,” insuring I have no rights as a parent in Uruguay. Judge said he will order me to move back to San Diego, even though I have no money. Husband lives 50% of the time in Uruguay.
Question 1: How do I get the police to take action?
Question 2: How do I get the RO moved to Humboldt?
Question 3: Can a judge legally order two people to “go down the hall and file for divorce, together, right now,” in violation of a restraining order that he, himself, issued. Even the bailiff put his hands on my husband to make sure he didn’t follow me. Neither one of us had been in San Diego for 3 months, which means they turned me away. I had to go home and file in Humboldt.
Question 4: Can I have a lawyer appear for me at the next RO hearing? Would that hurt me, in the judge’s eyes? I have no money for an attorney. My husband stole all of my money and sold my only form of transportation. How much would something like this cost?
Question 5: How do I get passport back from judge? How do I get travel restrictions removed?
Husband responds to restraining order and includes confession to rape, confession to knocking out three of my teeth. Denies everything else.
Judge orders mediation. Husband uses opportunity to intimidate, then grabs me and hugs me in front of mediator and won’t let go. To me, this is a violation of the restraining order. Also confesses to rape and taunts me about it in front of mediator. Demands I take back restraining order. Mediator does nothing, reports nothing. Husband says nothing about child, entire time, other than to say he will settle for nothing less than 50/50 custody. Mediator recommends to court supervised visitation that requires me to travel from Humboldt County once a month so he can see his son, who he abuses when he isn’t ignoring him, for four hours, two days in a row.
Husband closed joint bank account. It was my only account. He maintains his own accounts. He has never worked, I have provided all of the money. Husband sold my car without my permission. I have no money and no car and no ability to get either because of him. He has held onto all of my possessions and our son’s possessions and refuses to return them through intermediaries. He admitted this to the judge, citing the reason that he wants to get back together.
The day he received the restraining order, he attempted to contact me and his family contacted me to complain about the RO, all of them specifically mentioning the RO. Reported to the police immediately. They did nothing.
After mediation, he knew where I was going to be and waited for me with him and his friend. Also reported immediately and the police have done nothing.
On Christmas Eve, he called the Sheriff’s department in Humboldt, failed to mention that he had an RO, and asked them to check on his son and provide them with his son’s location. Reported then and there to the police. The police have done nothing.
Attempted to press charges on rape, provided hand written confession on the court documentation. Police have done nothing.
Attempted to press charges on assault based on hand written confession of him knocking out my three front teeth. Police have done nothing.
Filed for divorce in Humboldt County because the judge ordered us to file for divorce, together, in San Diego. I ran to San Diego after being raped. I left San Diego the moment he violated the RO, back to Humboldt. Judge accused me of playing games. Judge has ordered another mediation. Last one lasted for 5 hours with no agreements. Filed formal complaint against mediator. Judge expressed his anger at that, but admitted the court was wrong to put us in the same room together. Judge also admitted that he considered the response to include two confessions. It is in the court transcript.
Judge demanded I hand over US passport. The father was not ordered to hand over son’s Uruguayan passport. Husband admitted, to the mediator, that he obtained a Uruguayan passport in secret and marked himself as “unmarried,” insuring I have no rights as a parent in Uruguay. Judge said he will order me to move back to San Diego, even though I have no money. Husband lives 50% of the time in Uruguay.
Question 1: How do I get the police to take action?
Question 2: How do I get the RO moved to Humboldt?
Question 3: Can a judge legally order two people to “go down the hall and file for divorce, together, right now,” in violation of a restraining order that he, himself, issued. Even the bailiff put his hands on my husband to make sure he didn’t follow me. Neither one of us had been in San Diego for 3 months, which means they turned me away. I had to go home and file in Humboldt.
Question 4: Can I have a lawyer appear for me at the next RO hearing? Would that hurt me, in the judge’s eyes? I have no money for an attorney. My husband stole all of my money and sold my only form of transportation. How much would something like this cost?
Question 5: How do I get passport back from judge? How do I get travel restrictions removed?