will Restraining Order effect my husbands custody case?

[mm01110]

What is the name of your state? California

My step-sons mother and I got into a heated argument. My husband got inbetween us and as I attempted to get her out of my face my husband hit my arm by accident resulting in me inadvertantly tapping her on the cheek.

She then put me under "citizens arrest" and filed a temporary restraining order against me. - bear in mind accuser filed TRO when we did not agree to her latest visitation proposal.

Here is a brief history: child was placed in our primary custody in August 2007 due to ongoing investigation into child abuse against by accusers husband (that of which accusere doesn’t believe is substantial despite the fact that child had severe bruising on his bottom).

I firmly believe that the custody battle involving child is the motivation for the accuser filing this false charge against me in a manipulative attempt to bolster her child custody case.

 

[Silverplum]

I think your overinvolvement and angry relationship with your H's X is BOUND to cause LOTS of trouble. In his court case, and in his life.

You have no place to get into a "heated argument" with your H's X. If she is "in your face," you walk away.

What is the name of your state? California

My step-sons mother and I got into a heated argument. My husband got inbetween us and as I attempted to get her out of my face my husband hit my arm by accident resulting in me inadvertantly tapping her on the cheek.

She then put me under "citizens arrest" and filed a temporary restraining order against me. - bear in mind accuser filed TRO when we did not agree to her latest visitation proposal.

Here is a brief history: child was placed in our primary custody in August 2007 due to ongoing investigation into child abuse against by accusers husband (that of which accusere doesn’t believe is substantial despite the fact that child had severe bruising on his bottom).

I firmly believe that the custody battle involving child is the motivation for the accuser filing this false charge against me in a manipulative attempt to bolster her child custody case.

 

[xylene]

So let me paraphrase

Yoy aggressively confronted ex-husbands new wife, assaulted her (which is what you mean by 'got her out of my face').

Step-mom doesn't have custody case, your ex does.

 

[mm01110]

Obviously, but that doesnt change what has already happened.

 

[Silverplum]

Obviously, but that doesnt change what has already happened.

While it's flattering you believe we have the power to change the past, we actually do not.

 

[mm01110]

xylene - you didnt even read the post correctly. I AM the step mom.

 

[xylene]

xylene - you didn't even read the post correctly. I AM the step mom.

I guess I am confused as all heck. And it seems like you are too.

The people with a custody case are the child's parents.

 

[Silverplum]

xylene - you didnt even read the post correctly. I AM the step mom.

Yes, he did.
And yes, we know.
And yes, it's true: you are not a party to the custody case; but you have indeed caused lots of problems for your H.

 

[Gracie3787]

What is the name of your state? California

My step-sons mother and I got into a heated argument. My husband got inbetween us and as I attempted to get her out of my face my husband hit my arm by accident resulting in me inadvertantly tapping her on the cheek.

She then put me under "citizens arrest" and filed a temporary restraining order against me. - bear in mind accuser filed TRO when we did not agree to her latest visitation proposal.

Here is a brief history: child was placed in our primary custody in August 2007 due to ongoing investigation into child abuse against by accusers husband (that of which accusere doesn’t believe is substantial despite the fact that child had severe bruising on his bottom).

I firmly believe that the custody battle involving child is the motivation for the accuser filing this false charge against me in a manipulative attempt to bolster her child custody case.

You obviously cannot change what has already happened, and that can hurt your husband's case. However, from now on do NOT speak to your husband's ex AT ALL, don't even so much as look at her. That is the ONLY way to prevent any more problems for your husband. It is HIS battle, let HIM deal with HIS ex. If she tries to talk to you- WALK AWAY WITHOUT SAYING A WORD.

You should not be anywhere around during exchanges for visitation.

You are probably right about her using this, however, remember, she can only use YOU if you allow her to. Don't continue to play right into her hand.

 

[mm01110]

Thanks Gracie, you're right.