An arrest story

What is the name of your state? Maine

I had to share this with you all. My wife and I attended a birthday party over the wekend and stayed in a hotel in the Northern part of Maine. After the event, we retired to the hotel bar and got very, very drunk. At least i know I did. We argued, and unbeknownst to me at the time, she left the room and took the car. I recived a phone call at 4AM from her telling me she had been arrested for OUI. Someone had called and reported a car swerving according to her.
Evidently, i had left a message with her mother telling her we had argued. I had no recollection of doing it. I now feel that I may have been the one who made the call, but I cannot recall. I truly had a blackout.
I am sick with guilt and sadness that i may have done this to her, but at the same time, I wonder what may haver happened if (I?) someone had not called.
If it turns out I called, I am sure she will leave me.
If it turns out I didn't, we still have to deal with the pain and struggle to get through her trial and sentanceing. She blew a .17 and of course faile dthe field.
This is a horrible way to finally hit rock bottom and admit you (me) have a drinking problem. I feel like I have ruined her and my life.
Bottom line. DON'T DO IT.
Had she not gotten behind the wheel, (though I feeling guilty as hell for arguing with her), our lives would still be OK.

She is anxious to put this behind her and move on with life. I have not seen her cry as much. She was always the DD in our family. The most careful of the careful. She's a Sunday school teacher, and a great mother who made a very serious mistake, and she is horrified of what the consequenses will be. One time is all it takes. One time and things change so much.
We just thank God no one else was hurt, and she wasn't either...that's the only solace we find in this.
If she stays, I am the one who will benefit. I'm the one who's drinking caused this. And it's got to stop.
I urge you to never let what happened to us happen to you.

The question at the end of all this babbling is....does Maine allow you to plead before your trial date?We want to start classes, and/or suspension ASAP,

Look at it this way - Maybe you saved her life as well as a family she may have collided head-on with. I'm guessing you didn't call anyway. She probably really was swerving and a motorist on a cellphone got her. How would you even know where she was? A DUI is expensive and embarrassing, but its not the end of the world (dying in an accident IS however). So don't kick yourself. Even if you did call, she's the one that decided to drink & drive. She's responsible for everything that will happen to her. Let her take it as a cheap lesson. Yeah it will cost her a lot of money, but at least she's not crippled, blind, burnt, a vegetable, etc. Maybe the arrest will make her think twice next time.

Yes,

Your wife will have it tough for a few months, but that is only to get it through her head not to let it happen again. Everyone makes mistakes, luckily it ended with everyone okay. Good people make bad decisions sometimes. That is part of being human. We aren't perfect, by any means. She is doing right by trying to better herself from it. Keep that in mind, you will only better from it if you have learned from it. Maybe it will help both of you out. It happened to me. I am a good person who had a DWI. I've always been the DD for my friends, and would not ever have anything. The time that I did, this happened. I went to the bar to have 1 beer with my coworkers, and next thing you know, 1 turned into more. Unfortunately, I decided to drive home instead of call a cab/family member or something. I was stopped, and spent a night in jail. Am I a bad person, no, I'm facing my punishment, and it will be over soon. I've learned from my mistake. I am now a better person because I have learned from my mistake. Just keep your head up. You will get through this, and if you are good people who are seriously sorry about this and will never do it again, I wish you good luck.

[Son of Slam]

Originally posted by Bob1215
Yes,..... I wish you good luck.

BOB! Where did you dig this up from? OP has not posted here in almost two months. He will never see your post. Wake up boy.