iluvdalejr
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What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? IL
My 12 yr old son has been accussed of sexual harrassment involving a female student. His story: While running to art class, he almost ran into the BACK of a female student. He admits to touching her back; maybe somewhere under her arm but definitely did not grope her. He apologized as he passed her and went to his seat. Her story: He physically grabbed her breast. She said "You better not" & he said, "Oh yeah? I'm gonna" and proceeded to grab her.
She did not mention this to the Art teacher or any friends. She only told her older sister that evening. The sister then told the Father, who contacted the principal the following morning. The principal's story: My son entered the office "looking" guilty. The principal has "his own way of questioning" (his exact words) and getting kids to admit their guilt. My son denied everything at first, but when questioned as to which breast he touched, he replied "the right one". My son cried (actually I was told he sobbed and sobbed) and this was taken as a "sign of guilt". The principal called me later in the morning and told me about the accusation. Unfortunately, I didn't ask too many questions because I was in shock. I was told who accused my son and that he rightfully admitted to touching her. His punishment is a "Saturday" detention to be served from 8AM-12PM. He is to copy from the student handbook the rules for "sexual harrassment" in school. When my son came home from school that same day, he acted as if it never happened. He came home in a good mood & when asked about this incident, he said he had explained to the principal that it was all an accident. He said he told him that IF he had touched her, it was an accident and he did not GRAB her. He also added that another student was called down to the office as a witness. This student (a male & yes, he is one of my sons' friends) told my son that he explained to the principal what he saw & he thinks he told the same story as my son. The principal did not tell me that any witnesses were called to the office nor did he tell me that my son admitted to doing so only accidently. I called the principal the next morning & asked about the potential witness. He says he didn't bother telling me because his story neither hurt or helped my son. Basically, he says the witness didn't see anything. He also said that if the girl was trying to get at my son on purpose, she would have said something right away to the Art teacher. The principal also says my son never said anything about it being an accident. Just that he rightfully admitted to doing it. I was told if I was unhappy (which I am) that I could write a letter to the director of the school board. In the end, with no witnesses, this is a classic "She said/He said" case.
Just to add to this, my son "snitched" on this very same girl a few months ago for stealing pens from the Janitor's closet. This girl told my son what she had done & he turned her into the office.
Now, please don't go & post anything about me not thinking my son can do no wrong. Believe me, I have 5 kids & I know kids lie. I have talked and talked with my son about the consequences of his lying. I honestly think this is a case where the principal feels the heat from an irrate father & needs to set an example. The Father just asked that my son be punished in some way & I was told that the Father was content with the Saturday detention.
Any comments/suggestions are appreciated.
My 12 yr old son has been accussed of sexual harrassment involving a female student. His story: While running to art class, he almost ran into the BACK of a female student. He admits to touching her back; maybe somewhere under her arm but definitely did not grope her. He apologized as he passed her and went to his seat. Her story: He physically grabbed her breast. She said "You better not" & he said, "Oh yeah? I'm gonna" and proceeded to grab her.
She did not mention this to the Art teacher or any friends. She only told her older sister that evening. The sister then told the Father, who contacted the principal the following morning. The principal's story: My son entered the office "looking" guilty. The principal has "his own way of questioning" (his exact words) and getting kids to admit their guilt. My son denied everything at first, but when questioned as to which breast he touched, he replied "the right one". My son cried (actually I was told he sobbed and sobbed) and this was taken as a "sign of guilt". The principal called me later in the morning and told me about the accusation. Unfortunately, I didn't ask too many questions because I was in shock. I was told who accused my son and that he rightfully admitted to touching her. His punishment is a "Saturday" detention to be served from 8AM-12PM. He is to copy from the student handbook the rules for "sexual harrassment" in school. When my son came home from school that same day, he acted as if it never happened. He came home in a good mood & when asked about this incident, he said he had explained to the principal that it was all an accident. He said he told him that IF he had touched her, it was an accident and he did not GRAB her. He also added that another student was called down to the office as a witness. This student (a male & yes, he is one of my sons' friends) told my son that he explained to the principal what he saw & he thinks he told the same story as my son. The principal did not tell me that any witnesses were called to the office nor did he tell me that my son admitted to doing so only accidently. I called the principal the next morning & asked about the potential witness. He says he didn't bother telling me because his story neither hurt or helped my son. Basically, he says the witness didn't see anything. He also said that if the girl was trying to get at my son on purpose, she would have said something right away to the Art teacher. The principal also says my son never said anything about it being an accident. Just that he rightfully admitted to doing it. I was told if I was unhappy (which I am) that I could write a letter to the director of the school board. In the end, with no witnesses, this is a classic "She said/He said" case.
Just to add to this, my son "snitched" on this very same girl a few months ago for stealing pens from the Janitor's closet. This girl told my son what she had done & he turned her into the office.
Now, please don't go & post anything about me not thinking my son can do no wrong. Believe me, I have 5 kids & I know kids lie. I have talked and talked with my son about the consequences of his lying. I honestly think this is a case where the principal feels the heat from an irrate father & needs to set an example. The Father just asked that my son be punished in some way & I was told that the Father was content with the Saturday detention.
Any comments/suggestions are appreciated.
