8 yr old Bullied by Teacher's Aid

[Mom2U]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

Two summers ago my 11 yr old child recieved homemade porn and graphic porn from a boy that was 13 yr old. Their friendship ended because of this. The 13 yr old boys mother began working as an aid at the school.

All last year my 8 yr old son was being picked on and bullied by this boys mom, a special needs aid. My son is not a special needs student. He is quiet, bright with no behavior issues. The aid would yell and verbally abuse my son for incidents he did not commit. She would humiliate him in front of the class when the teacher was not around.Other students seen this as a game and enjoyed and played along with the aid. Many of the students told my son she "hated" him and was "mean". I told the teacher of the situation and she said she would observe.I trusted her and was very patient but the abuse continued. I mentioned it again to the teacher and she said had not seen any problems and that my son is a great student.. Meanwhile it was with the class witnessing it. The year finally ended and he happliy went to 4th grade knowing this aid was in another classroom with her special needs student.

On the first day of school my now 8yr old daughter was yelled at the same aid for "rolling" her eyes at her. I called the principle (she called me a week later) and told her of my sons year long problem and that I will not tolerate the aid abusing my children any longer. Tha principle defended the aid and said my daughter was rude and that the aid would never do anything like I described. I told her I want action, she said she would check it out.

A week in a half later I called and the principle said nothing happened as I described and she defended the aid. When my son came home he told me the principle took him in her office and kept insisting that he was "not being truthful" and that he made all this up. He kept insisting it happened and was very traumatized and crying.

I called the principle right away asking why she upset him. She said she told him that he was over reacting and she was busy and she hung up on me.

I then call the school superintendants office and left a message. A day later and no reply. What can I do to stop this abuse to my children? Please advise.

[IsabellaSoriano]

well, first off, you allowed the "abuse" to continue with your son. and when you say your child never acted out, did you observe the class to verify this? or has your son never ever lied to you?

what was stopping you from requesting a transfer to another classroom?

and since this over a year ago, i see no recourse. no documentation

so, now that THAT issue is moot...

on to your daughter. daughter rolled her eyes. that was incredibly rude. to do to ANY adult. and what did YOU do to educate your daughter to not be rude to the adult in charge?

[Mom2U]

First of all, I did not allow my son to be abused, as you say. My son is quiet, smart and a really well behaved boy. The classroom teacher actually requested my son to be in her class because she just loved my older son. The teacher would always tell me what a pleasure he was to have in the class.

The aid is a lousy mother and took out her frustrations on my kid. I trusted the teacher that she would look out for my son. That was my biggest mistake -Trusting anyone. I thought that this poor excuse of a mother would leave my son alone. But as I mentioned he is very timid and he was humiliated and scared of the aid. I kept in touch with the teacher -but later noticed she depended on this aid for too many other duties--giving her opportunity to bully my son. I should have gone to the principle sooner, but she is known to be a slacker and I am not much of a hell raiser, but I am learning. You see, I have alway been kind, forgiving and patient. Yes, it is my fault for being nice. I have to be like other women, I need to be a B**** to get heard. I should not have any respect for anyone anymore. Being nice and respectful is only a weakness. Virtues = Weak. They dont make people like they used to anymore.

As for my daughter, she did not roll her eyes, she may have looked up at this really tall aid. And if she did--The aid should have ignored it not yell at a little girl. c'mon 45 yr old vs. 8 yr old?

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Mom2U

First of all, I did not allow my son to be abused, as you say. My son is quiet, smart and a really well behaved boy. The classroom teacher actually requested my son to be in her class because she just loved my older son. The teacher would always tell me what a pleasure he was to have in the class.

The aid is a lousy mother and took out her frustrations on my kid. I trusted the teacher that she would look out for my son. That was my biggest mistake -Trusting anyone. I thought that this poor excuse of a mother would leave my son alone. But as I mentioned he is very timid and he was humiliated and scared of the aid. I kept in touch with the teacher -but later noticed she depended on this aid for too many other duties--giving her opportunity to bully my son. I should have gone to the principle sooner, but she is known to be a slacker and I am not much of a hell raiser, but I am learning. You see, I have alway been kind, forgiving and patient. Yes, it is my fault for being nice. I have to be like other women, I need to be a B**** to get heard. I should not have any respect for anyone anymore. Being nice and respectful is only a weakness. Virtues = Weak. They dont make people like they used to anymore.

As for my daughter, she did not roll her eyes, she may have looked up at this really tall aid. And if she did--The aid should have ignored it not yell at a little girl. c'mon 45 yr old vs. 8 yr old?

you were there? you saw her? or your daughter has not once ever in her entire life lied to you?

[Mom2U]

My daughter does not lie and she was shaken by the incident. It's really sad when women are so vicious and evil to children - Shame on these so called women.

[IsabellaSoriano]

Originally Posted by Mom2U

My daughter does not lie and she was shaken by the incident. It's really sad when women are so vicious and evil to children - Shame on these so called women.

i'm not saying this to be malicious, so bear with me.

how do you plan on proving to the principle (who deals with dozens of children who lie everday) that YOUR daughter would never once lie in a million years?

[Mom2U]

I live in BFE and the slacker principle already took sides with the GF aid with the porno son. So here I am a mom thats really frustrated and confused.