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I'm the mother of an almost 3y/o boy who has a brain tumor. His father is not in the picture at the moment. There is a CPO that covers both myself and our child (there was dv to myself and then pending child endangering charges from him dui with our son). CSB investigated the child endangering against ex and substantiated it, criminal charges are all still pending. Obviously if something happened to me say, tomorrow DS probably wouldn't just be placed with Dad.
My concern is down the road, say he gets his act together (which of course would be a good thing) and something happens to me. Obviously I can't will my child to someone (and wouldn't even want to if Dad isn't a trainwreck at the time) and most likely DS will go with Dad unless Dad is unfit at that time. What I want to know is if I can put a POA for Healthcare (which would be my father) for my son in case anything happens to me. Is that even possible? Dad doesn't have much knowledge about the treatment options ect of DS's type of BT, it's something I've researched extensively to ensure the best care for DS and hope if something ever happens to me I have someone there overseeing DS's care in the same manner I have. So basically I would like to have my father be there as a second person who legally has a say on medical decisions on my sons behalf if anything were to happen to me, my goal isn't to make it so that Dad has no say - just not the ONLY say.
Would something similar to an Ethical Will also be appropriate in this situation? Something outlining my feelings and wishes regarding my son and certain medical procedures, treatment options, places/specialists I'd favor working with, ect. I know that an Ethical Will isn't something legally enforceable but if my father had legal say for medical decisions he'd try to make sure my wishes were followed when appropriate (ex most likely would not).
So is this possible and/or enforceable? If so, how do I go about it?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
I'm the mother of an almost 3y/o boy who has a brain tumor. His father is not in the picture at the moment. There is a CPO that covers both myself and our child (there was dv to myself and then pending child endangering charges from him dui with our son). CSB investigated the child endangering against ex and substantiated it, criminal charges are all still pending. Obviously if something happened to me say, tomorrow DS probably wouldn't just be placed with Dad.
My concern is down the road, say he gets his act together (which of course would be a good thing) and something happens to me. Obviously I can't will my child to someone (and wouldn't even want to if Dad isn't a trainwreck at the time) and most likely DS will go with Dad unless Dad is unfit at that time. What I want to know is if I can put a POA for Healthcare (which would be my father) for my son in case anything happens to me. Is that even possible? Dad doesn't have much knowledge about the treatment options ect of DS's type of BT, it's something I've researched extensively to ensure the best care for DS and hope if something ever happens to me I have someone there overseeing DS's care in the same manner I have. So basically I would like to have my father be there as a second person who legally has a say on medical decisions on my sons behalf if anything were to happen to me, my goal isn't to make it so that Dad has no say - just not the ONLY say.
Would something similar to an Ethical Will also be appropriate in this situation? Something outlining my feelings and wishes regarding my son and certain medical procedures, treatment options, places/specialists I'd favor working with, ect. I know that an Ethical Will isn't something legally enforceable but if my father had legal say for medical decisions he'd try to make sure my wishes were followed when appropriate (ex most likely would not).
So is this possible and/or enforceable? If so, how do I go about it?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state?
