What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? NJ
My sister and her adult daughter have lived with my mom for almost 10 years, since my dad died. My dad left my mom well off, almost a million in assets, They sold her house that was paid off and bought one, but mom mortgaged it. My sister got POA about 2 and a half years ago because mom was being hospitilized, not life-threatening. My sister needed to pay the bills, she contributes nothing.
Since mom signed sister as POA, mom is broke, IRS has seized mom's bank account and filed lein. SS was leined for 25% to IRS. House is in foreclosure for 2nd time this year, sister filed bankruptcy in mom's name to stop it, Credit cards are maxed out, sister has signed over all vehicles to herself (forged mom's name when I told her she could not use POA to sign title to herself), The worst is probably that mom's house is trashed, not habitable, because my sister is an animal hoarder and has never cleaned. I have no way to describe the smell, even from outside, and it's been a long time since I've gone in. Mom is 72 years old and suffers with chronic breathing problems (no wonder). She had no phone, no hot water, and for her last 2 weeks there, no air cond.
FINALLY, I got mom to come "stay" with me. I intend to file for assistance for having her with me since I can't afford to support my mom too.
One question is, when I apply for assistance for caring for my mom, will I be asked why her living arrangements have changed, or why she moved in with me? If so, what should I say? I am inclined to tell the truth. If I let my sister handle the mess, it will end somehow anyway, and she can walk away. I could settle for that, as long as I can take care of my mom and receive financial assistance that my sister can not get her hands on.
What about my sister's crimes? I'm afraid to have mom's mental capacity evaluated because I think it's better to have POA revoked NOW. Should I take legal steps against my sister? Mom says no. I am looking for opinion on "ratting" on my sister, and if I did, what is the process, and what should I expect to happen?
Sorry for the long post...there's more, this is the short story...I don't know what to do.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
My sister and her adult daughter have lived with my mom for almost 10 years, since my dad died. My dad left my mom well off, almost a million in assets, They sold her house that was paid off and bought one, but mom mortgaged it. My sister got POA about 2 and a half years ago because mom was being hospitilized, not life-threatening. My sister needed to pay the bills, she contributes nothing.
Since mom signed sister as POA, mom is broke, IRS has seized mom's bank account and filed lein. SS was leined for 25% to IRS. House is in foreclosure for 2nd time this year, sister filed bankruptcy in mom's name to stop it, Credit cards are maxed out, sister has signed over all vehicles to herself (forged mom's name when I told her she could not use POA to sign title to herself), The worst is probably that mom's house is trashed, not habitable, because my sister is an animal hoarder and has never cleaned. I have no way to describe the smell, even from outside, and it's been a long time since I've gone in. Mom is 72 years old and suffers with chronic breathing problems (no wonder). She had no phone, no hot water, and for her last 2 weeks there, no air cond.
FINALLY, I got mom to come "stay" with me. I intend to file for assistance for having her with me since I can't afford to support my mom too.
One question is, when I apply for assistance for caring for my mom, will I be asked why her living arrangements have changed, or why she moved in with me? If so, what should I say? I am inclined to tell the truth. If I let my sister handle the mess, it will end somehow anyway, and she can walk away. I could settle for that, as long as I can take care of my mom and receive financial assistance that my sister can not get her hands on.
What about my sister's crimes? I'm afraid to have mom's mental capacity evaluated because I think it's better to have POA revoked NOW. Should I take legal steps against my sister? Mom says no. I am looking for opinion on "ratting" on my sister, and if I did, what is the process, and what should I expect to happen?
Sorry for the long post...there's more, this is the short story...I don't know what to do.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?