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My mother has been living nextdoor to and caring for my grandmother for almost fifteen years now and my aunt has done as little as possible to help. (My grandmother is 86 and is visited weekly by a home health nurse, but is still in great health for her age) My aunt and my mother have never really gotten along and my mom has pretty much made peace with this, sometimes letting years pass without them speaking. About a week ago, my mom got a call from Adult Protective Services telling her that her sister has turned her in for a)siphoning gasoline from my grandmother's vehicle and b)cashing and spending my grandmother's Social Security check. Just to give you a little background, my grandma and mom share responsibility of taking care of a 200-acre farm and cattle operation, and my mother and grandma have shared a bank account since my grandfather passed, almost 10 years ago. My mom would never steal from anyone, much less my grandmother, so in other words, both accusations are absurd.
After visiting my grandmother, APS called mom yesterday. Just like a scolding father, they told my mother that the strained relationship between her and her sister was part of the problem in the situation contributing to my grandmother's decline in health, and that the next complaint they hear about this situation will cause them to take my grandmother from her home, sell her property and to take her to a nursing home where we would not be able to visit her. Dying alone and in a nursing home has always been one of my grandmother's worst fears, and I know that she would not do well there. We have a quit claim deed that is almost ten years old now, and they are telling us that the state can override the quit claim deed. I'm so frustrated and scared for my grandma....please help.
My mother has been living nextdoor to and caring for my grandmother for almost fifteen years now and my aunt has done as little as possible to help. (My grandmother is 86 and is visited weekly by a home health nurse, but is still in great health for her age) My aunt and my mother have never really gotten along and my mom has pretty much made peace with this, sometimes letting years pass without them speaking. About a week ago, my mom got a call from Adult Protective Services telling her that her sister has turned her in for a)siphoning gasoline from my grandmother's vehicle and b)cashing and spending my grandmother's Social Security check. Just to give you a little background, my grandma and mom share responsibility of taking care of a 200-acre farm and cattle operation, and my mother and grandma have shared a bank account since my grandfather passed, almost 10 years ago. My mom would never steal from anyone, much less my grandmother, so in other words, both accusations are absurd.
After visiting my grandmother, APS called mom yesterday. Just like a scolding father, they told my mother that the strained relationship between her and her sister was part of the problem in the situation contributing to my grandmother's decline in health, and that the next complaint they hear about this situation will cause them to take my grandmother from her home, sell her property and to take her to a nursing home where we would not be able to visit her. Dying alone and in a nursing home has always been one of my grandmother's worst fears, and I know that she would not do well there. We have a quit claim deed that is almost ten years old now, and they are telling us that the state can override the quit claim deed. I'm so frustrated and scared for my grandma....please help.
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