worried in illi
Junior Member
Illinois - Cook County
Grandma has been in nursing home for a number of years. My mother has always visited her, fed her and has been very loving, patient and caring all this time. My aunt has power of attorney (how that happened I'll never know!).
There has been tension and chaos recently because mom fed gram and my aunt didn't want her fed. Claiming if she ate it would deny her 24 hr hospice care. My gram if fed and cared for doesn't need 24 hr care. Why would you not want to feed someone who is living and breathing!
Now my aunt has threatened to prevent my mom from seeing and visiting the nursing home and has said that she will move gram and not tell anyone where she is. Is this legal? Her previous orders to all administration was that nobody was allowed information about my grams condition. I'm starting to wonder if there is something that she's trying to hide. She is phony and rarely visits until recently when all the other siblings started showing up. It's all an act, she mean and demanding, ordering staff and everyone else around. My mom doesn't care about any assets (not that there are any). She just wants to spend the last days at her mother's bedside!
HELP!!!
Grandma has been in nursing home for a number of years. My mother has always visited her, fed her and has been very loving, patient and caring all this time. My aunt has power of attorney (how that happened I'll never know!).
There has been tension and chaos recently because mom fed gram and my aunt didn't want her fed. Claiming if she ate it would deny her 24 hr hospice care. My gram if fed and cared for doesn't need 24 hr care. Why would you not want to feed someone who is living and breathing!
Now my aunt has threatened to prevent my mom from seeing and visiting the nursing home and has said that she will move gram and not tell anyone where she is. Is this legal? Her previous orders to all administration was that nobody was allowed information about my grams condition. I'm starting to wonder if there is something that she's trying to hide. She is phony and rarely visits until recently when all the other siblings started showing up. It's all an act, she mean and demanding, ordering staff and everyone else around. My mom doesn't care about any assets (not that there are any). She just wants to spend the last days at her mother's bedside!
HELP!!!