What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? MA. My mother had to come live with me a few years ago, when she could no longer care for herself and her husband. (He had dementia and went to live with his sister back in his childhood home, where he functioned pretty well.) He passed away in 2014.
As time passed, diabetic issues took their toll on my mom. She went into a rehab facility (another horror storY) and is not in the hospital, where she used up all her medicare days. She is no longer competent.
To cut to the chase, she made me her health care proxy with older sister being #2. Younger sister is not on the list, although she's done a remarkable job of managing care. Being health care proxy has been a nightmare beyond belief. Doctors want her on "comfort measures only" and my sisters want her cured. That's probably not going to happen.
My mother's husband left her with a decent estate. Older sister hired a lawyer a year ago and nobody's seen a dime. My mother signed a paper stating my older sister may represent her in matters of the estate, but nobody told us it needed to be notarized We're at Square One.
Now, my sisters want her to be moved out of state for health care. Either to Washington State where my older sister lives or New Jersey where my younger sister lives, or Georgia where the same sister lives part time. I don't think Mom could tolerate such a trip.
My mother has always been my best friend. Nursing home roommates have told me she calls out for me at night. If they move her, I'll never see her again.
Older sister asked me to relinquish being health care proxy, which I said I'd do, now I'm not so sure. It's been horrible, with doctors chasing me around with DNR forms and threatening me with "the ethics committee" As though they have any legal standing.
Please advise and not criticize me too much.
As time passed, diabetic issues took their toll on my mom. She went into a rehab facility (another horror storY) and is not in the hospital, where she used up all her medicare days. She is no longer competent.
To cut to the chase, she made me her health care proxy with older sister being #2. Younger sister is not on the list, although she's done a remarkable job of managing care. Being health care proxy has been a nightmare beyond belief. Doctors want her on "comfort measures only" and my sisters want her cured. That's probably not going to happen.
My mother's husband left her with a decent estate. Older sister hired a lawyer a year ago and nobody's seen a dime. My mother signed a paper stating my older sister may represent her in matters of the estate, but nobody told us it needed to be notarized We're at Square One.
Now, my sisters want her to be moved out of state for health care. Either to Washington State where my older sister lives or New Jersey where my younger sister lives, or Georgia where the same sister lives part time. I don't think Mom could tolerate such a trip.
My mother has always been my best friend. Nursing home roommates have told me she calls out for me at night. If they move her, I'll never see her again.
Older sister asked me to relinquish being health care proxy, which I said I'd do, now I'm not so sure. It's been horrible, with doctors chasing me around with DNR forms and threatening me with "the ethics committee" As though they have any legal standing.
Please advise and not criticize me too much.