23 year Marriage Comes To An End~Please Advise*

To Whom this may Concern;
I have been Legally Seperated from my Husband of 23 years, for a little over a year now, and have another court hearing coming up on the 23 of this month! So I could really use some HELP immediately, from a Legal Stand point! Our two tenage children are living with me in New Hampshire,and I have full custody, of them both! My Husband is still living back in Vermont~
A little Back ground:
First off when we first married back in 1978, we agreed together, as Husband, and Wife that I would stay home, and raise the children,and that would enable him to do whatever he could to further his career! After the children were grown then he would be able to retire, and we could then do the things that we had always wanted to, and dreamed about doing together!
Without going into great Detail,about a year ago, I decide that it would be in our Best Interest to end our Mariage! I filed for a Divorce, he moved out of our Home, leaving me with our two youngest children, 17, and 14 years young, and all the Bills!
There was alot of manipulation, and pressure from him, to force me to settle on important issues to do with important matters, but only with his best interest in mind, as far as the courts, so that we could get the Divorce over with, and so that he would get away with as much equiety as possible, or should I say, as much money in his pocket as he could Legally, he had a Good Lawyer!
I was forced into the system, against my will, {State aid, food stamps,ect..} for almost a year, just so the children, and I could survive!
He had me believing that I would lose our Home, and if I did not get the Bills paid,
the children, and I would be out on the street, mean while I agreed to sell our Home, and ended up selling many other things of great value, only because I felt that I had no other choice!
The Women's shelter in Vermont gave me the names of several Lawyer's that would be willing to Represent me, free of charge, so I hired one! I trusted that this Lawyer would Represent me, and my best Interest, however over the last year he has not Represented me at all, as far as I can Tell!
That's where I need your Help??????????????
In the begining I told this Lawyer that all I wanted was a Divorce, I wanted out, as quickly as possible, and not realizing that I had options, as far as what was comning to me, "child support, savings, pention, Insurance,Allimony, ect..." my Lawyer NEVER advised me of any of these choices! I feel as if he did as little as possible, for as long as he could, until the house was sold, then when he knew that I then had funds, only then did he offer to truely do something in my behalf, Now he says it is going to cost me!
After all is said and done, I have almost entirely gone through my share of the selling price of our Home,
between monthly bills, and supporting two teenage children,
packing up, moving out of State, Lawyers fees, Doctors, Clothes, Food Bills,ect...
I am almost broke!
He some how convienced the court system, a year ago that he could only afford to pay $600.00 a month in child support payments belive it, or not,and that is less than one quarter of his monthly Income and that is all I am getting up to date, period!
He said that he is not going to pay a dime more then he has to, and if I need more money to live on, then I better get a job, and he said that by the time he gets done with me, I will be completly broke, is this fare, or is there something desperately wrong with the SYSTEM?
Please can someone tell me what, if anything can I do Legally, as I am DESPERATE, and know that I NEED HELP NOW?????????????????
Thank-You~ Sincerely Yours~
"Desperate in New Hampshire*

Are you legally divorce and if so how long?

No, I am not Divorced yet, there have been several postponements all ready, from both sides, and this has dragged out far to long!
However I have been assured that the Divorce should be final by Christmas!