ADULTRY IN MILITARY

MY HUSBAND IS IN THE ARMY AND STATIONED OVERSEAS. HE HAS HAD AN AFFAIR WITH A FELLOW OFFICER AND SHE IS PREGANT. WHAT IS THE PUNSHIMENT FOR HIM AND HER AND WHAT ARE MY RIGHTS AND BENEFITS.

[LegalBeagle]

If you were in Russia you could have them both shot.

Do not know the military punishment.. but regardless, divorce him.

We need a state.

Is one an officer and one enlisted? Makes a HUGE difference!

Are you asking because your planning to stay together and don't want your family to suffer or asking because you want to crush him into little tiny pieces and feed him to the K9 units as a treat? :P

Tig

P.S. Been there! So I sympathize in great detail!

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Tigres:
[b]Are you asking because your planning to stay together and don't want your family to suffer or asking because you want to crush him into little tiny pieces and feed him to the K9 units as a treat? :P
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Good point Tigger..

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[This message has been edited by Always searching (edited October 14, 2000).]

If in base housing, tread carefully, you want a place to stay until you figure out what to do. Been there. Military lawyers protect their own...Is this true? my ex had his girlfriend living on base for over a year before his divorce from his ex wife and received his BAH...he apparently never told the base housing that she was there for over a year and a half. Can he get in trouble for that? (honestly not looking to start any stuff )

I LIVE IN MARYLAND AND MAINTAIN OUR HOME HERE.I WORK AND HAVE TWO CHILDREN(WHICH HE ASSUMED CUSTODY OF. HE IS APPLYING FOR CITIZENSHIP(HE IS ORGANILLY FROM JAMICA. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT MY OPTIONS ARE BEFORE I PURSUE THIS ANY FURTHER. WILL HE COME OUT ON TOP, AND I WILL BE LEFT WITH NOTHING? ANY ADVISE YOU CAN GIVE WILL BE APPRECIATED. THANKS.

I LIVE IN MARYLAND AND MAINTAIN OUR HOME HERE.I WORK AND HAVE TWO CHILDREN(WHICH HE ASSUMED CUSTODY OF. HE IS APPLYING FOR CITIZENSHIP(HE IS ORGANILLY FROM JAMICA. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT MY OPTIONS ARE BEFORE I PURSUE THIS ANY FURTHER. WILL HE COME OUT ON TOP, AND I WILL BE LEFT WITH NOTHING? ANY ADVISE YOU CAN GIVE WILL BE APPRECIATED. THANKS.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>If in base housing, tread carefully, you want a place to stay until you figure out what to do. Been there. Military lawyers protect their own...Is this true? my ex had his girlfriend living on base for over a year before his divorce from his ex wife and received his BAH...he apparently never told the base housing that she was there for over a year and a half. Can he get in trouble for that? (honestly not looking to start any stuff )<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Yes, it's called fraud and if you had proof of it he would be in hot water! And military lawyers do more than protect their own. They will not only not usually help a spousal dependant (even if it is not their sponsor they are pursuing legal action against) but will actively discourage the dependant from believing they have any legal recourse.

At least, that is what I have been led to believe both by my own experience, and my dependant friends account.

Be careful where you tread with this information. If he is paying child support, and he gets in trouble because of this, it could affect his earning capacity. It could also affect both of your relationships with the children. On the other hand, I chose not to report some things my ex did for similar reasons and have regretted it as he took it to be express permission on my part to continue and if I turned around now it would look as if I was just being nasty.

Of course, if you know a crime has been committed, you have a moral and legal responsibility to report it.

Trouble any way you look, eh?

Tig

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I am not a lawyer. Any information relayed is merely my own experience or research.

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I LIVE IN MARYLAND AND MAINTAIN OUR HOME HERE.I WORK AND HAVE TWO CHILDREN(WHICH HE ASSUMED CUSTODY OF. HE IS APPLYING FOR CITIZENSHIP(HE IS ORGANILLY FROM JAMICA. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT MY OPTIONS ARE BEFORE I PURSUE THIS ANY FURTHER. WILL HE COME OUT ON TOP, AND I WILL BE LEFT WITH NOTHING? ANY ADVISE YOU CAN GIVE WILL BE APPRECIATED. THANKS.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Unless he is brought up on charges, your divorce will go by ordinary state laws. (are you a resident of Maryland?) Are the children his? How long have you been married? The military has some set rules as to how much of his pension you will recieve etc based on how long you have been married. Also, if he is receiving BAQ for you and your children he should turn it over to you until CS is set or it is discontinued. If he doesn't, call his first shirt (I'm assuming he's enlisted). (You can call the base locator service and ask for help finding him/her.)

As of right now, document everything! If he gives you money for something, document what it was for. If he asks for money for something, and you decide to give it to him, get it in writing what it was for and when he intends to reimburse you.

I know it's hard right now. It could get a lot more difficult before it's over. But remember that to be military wife for ANY length of time, you have already shown that you are strong, adaptable and resilient. And bit by bit, you will regain your balance and even be proud of how well you've done.

Hang in there!

Tig

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I am not a lawyer. Any information relayed is merely my own experience or research.