I'm only a couple years older than your daughter. Their's a reason she's acting out. Something may have happen to her. Something she's afraid or unwilling to talk to you about. You need to let her know your their for her. Your willing to listen with an open heart and mind. Don't compare her to how you were when you were her age. The world has changed alot since then. But, at the same time let her know if she wonts to act like an adult she needs to live like one and take care of herself. The other problem may just be a lack of discipline. Was she disciplined as a child or did you always let her do what she wonts. If that's the case their's not much you can do. You never made her follow the rules before why should she now. As far as the job thing. I think it's a good idea for us young people to get jobs when we turn 16 or 17. It teaches us responsablity. Does she have a car. Or some type of bill she could be responsible for. Maybe since she wonts to do whatever she wonts you could be more of a landloard and charge her rent. I don't think it's fair to tell her what she has to do with the money (as far as saving it). It's her money, she earned it. You can only suggest what to do with it. I also think it would be wrong for you to tell her boss to cut back on her hours. It's her job not yous. And, how will she learn to be responsable if your not letting her make any of her own choices. And, as far as kicking her out that's a hard call to make. But in some states anyone over 16 can move out with your permision. I just hope your only considering that because of her behavior and not because of the medicaid. Good luck |