alimony,child supp,interest!!!!!!!!!!

Here's my story. My husbands ex has been cohabited on a conjugal basis now for 11yrs. she took him to court tor back alimony. they were onlt married 2yrs . Judge awarded alimony for 12 yrs back eventhough she told my husbnd she did not want or need his money some years ago. recently my husband lost his job . Couldn't pay support so he is behind agian. the judge gave her interest of 9 percent on a previos child support arrears judgement that at the time we went to court had already been paid. The judge combined the back child support and alimony as back child support only. So now child support enforement has a bck due amt of over 21,000 when it should be 2,500. We went back to get it divided properly and it was denied. Now she doesnt have to pay taxes on it and we cant deduct it , which I thought was our right . We have not had visitation for a year. She says the boy doesnt want to go and she doesnt have to make him..AND if we dont pay 21,000 within the year we have to pay 9 percent interest on top of the whole thing. Its better than any savings account. His wages are garnished ,taxes are taken by her and we have no more money . WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSE TO DO !!!!!!! ANYONE, PLEASE!

BY THE WAY WE ARE IN ILLINOIS .

I've got to say the attorneys here are great! I'm so sorry for the situation you're in, but don't you have a right to appeal? If the state recognizes a co-habitation as "common-law", why will the judges allow the ex- to bankrupt someone? I hope you get an answer soon, I'msorry I couldn't help...

Im sure but not positive that "common-law" does not exsist in IL. As far as appeals go ,Im not positive again but i think in order to qualify for that a mistake somehow has to made in the circuit court. If Im not correct ,please someone let me know . We arent looking away from what is rightfully owed(child support) but somehow I fail to see the justice in my situation.

THAT IS CRAPPPP!!!!!!!How many men does it take to support this woman anyway. Take her ass back to court and get her for contempt on the visits. there is legal aid to look into out there. Get your chance to make her look Bad in front of the judge and nail her to the WALL. GOOD LUCK. PS... this sounds like a lady I know-small world!

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by nowrls2trn:
[B]Here's my story. My husbands ex has been cohabited on a conjugal basis now for 11yrs. she took him to court tor back alimony. they were onlt married 2yrs . Judge awarded alimony for 12 yrs back eventhough she told my husbnd she did not want or need his money some years ago. recently my husband lost his job . Couldn't pay support so he is behind agian. the judge gave her interest of 9 percent on a previos child support arrears judgement that at the time we went to court had already been paid. The judge combined the back child support and alimony as back child support only. So now child support enforement has a bck due amt of over 21,000 when it should be 2,500. We went back to get it divided properly and it was denied. Now she doesnt have to pay taxes on it and we cant deduct it , which I thought was our right . We have not had visitation for a year. She says the boy doesnt want to go and she doesnt have to make him..AND if we dont pay 21,000 within the year we have to pay 9 percent interest on top of the whole thing. Its better than any savings account. His wages are garnished ,taxes are taken by her and we have no more money . WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSE TO DO !!!!!!! ANYONE, PLEASE! [No one is helping me .Please help me./B]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Your story is somewhat faimilar to me. My husbands ex of 13 years is trying the same thing. She was married when they started seeing each other. She told my husband she was divorced. About 4 to 6 weeks into the relationship she tells my husband she is pregnant. Two weeks later she informs him she needs to take care of her divorce. She divorces this man when she is 6 months pregnant and marries my husband a few weeks later. Two months into the marriage she tells my husband she doesn't love him and he needs to leave. She then proceeds to move her girlfriend lover in. They divorce, she refuses to let him see the child. Tells him the child isn't his. He sought legal advice for visitation and requested a paternaty test. She disappeared. A few years later she called out of the blue and said the child had been adopted by her current husband and my husband needed not to try and find them. Now 13 years later, she calls out of the blue and says he wasn't adopted and he is the father and wants arrearages as well as current child support. She lives in another state. I hired a private investigator and found that another man has visitation and parental privilege rights to this child, as well he is also paying current child support for this child. When we first got the call we went to our local child advocate office and started having child support taken out and sent to her. Then when I got the information back from the PI, I took that to them. The PI did a wonderful job. We found out that she had been using 2 different SS#'s, which is a federal offense. She goes by 3 different names, and lost custody to one of her children due to a psychological evaluation done on her and the child. I have 160 some pages on her, which are very incriminating. Child Advocate had never seen anything like it. Had I not hired the PI, we would have had to pay all the arrearages plus. The case is not settled yet, we now have an attorney in the state where she lives. In the papers I recieved from the PI was the name of a lawyer who had gone up against her in court and won. He is now our attorney as well, which is good because he has a thicker file on her than I do.
Your local child advocate office may be able to help you. It never hurts to try, and there is no charge for their service. If you can scrape up enough money for a PI, I recomend it. It's made a big difference in our case.
I wish you lots of luck.