biological father's B.S.

I need help?! I am the mother of 4 beautiful daughters. My oldest 2 daughters have a different biological father than the youngest 2, however, they refer to my husband as "Daddy" and he thinks of them as his own. In fact, 'our' 4 year old has never lived with her biological father. I keep in contact with their paternal side of the family and the girls go see them for visits. My question is this**************their biological father has already been in jail 3 times, and still refuses to comply with the courts or what is in the best interest of the girls. He was put in jail for "terroristic threats" on me, for a DWI, and for non-payment of child support. He spent quite a bit of time in jail for not paying support until his mother bailed him out and paid the arrearage for him. However, since he got out of jail he has not paid anything and that was 2 1/2 years ago. Then, to top things off I met him last night, after weeks of me trying to contact him to see if he wanted to get the girls for the weekend, and he was drunk. He stunk to high heaven of alcohol and he admitted to drinking all the way down to meet me - a 2 hr. drive - not to mention it was pouring down rain. Only 1 daughter was with me because the other one begged me and her "daddy" not to make her go - this is an EVERYTIME thing. The 4 year old cries, begs, and pleads not to be made to go see him - biological father. Anyway, only the oldest was going to go and after bio. father was drunk I refused to let her go. I called my husband, her "daddy" and he told me to call the police if I needed to, but to not let "our precious daughter" go with him. I then called bio. father's sister and she also agreed not to let my oldest daughter get in the truck with her brother - bio. father. She said she would meet me the next morning so my daughter could still go up to visit everybody else. I said that would be fine and we made arrangements to meet. I talked to bio. father's sister 2 more times late last night and bio. father still had not made it in from drinking. I was assured by bio. father's sister that my daughter would be safe with her and that she would see to picking her up. Anyway, I drove early this morning in the pouring rain again with my children, the youngest being 2 months old, to meet bio. father's sister so my oldest daughter to go and visit. But, lo and behold, instead of bio. father's sister being there it was bio. father himself with the same clothes on from last night and looking like he had just come in from pulling an allnighter. He had a friend with him and they both had a smirk on their face like they had just beat me at the game of a lifetime. I didn't know what to do because I felt betrayed by bio. father's sister who assured me my daughter would be picked up by her and that she would be safe. Bio. father's friend told me that she would be safe and that bio. father was ok to drive. I was completely shocked!! Oh, I also failed to mention, that he had bought a brand new truck. He pays no child support but buys a new truck and when I ask him about the support he tells me to wait in line. My husband wants to adopt the girls and they have asked him if he would. In fact, they told bio. father that they did not want to go by his last name and were not going to. So, they don't. Bio. father, who has already relinquished his rights to another child from a previous marriage because he didn't pay child support and was put in jail by the attorney general, is adement about making me and the girls suffer. He says he will rot in jail over a lifetime before he gives me anything or lets my husband, the only "daddy" these girls will ever have a strong bond to, adopt them. HELP ME, PLEASE!!!!

[This message has been edited by jewell (edited June 10, 2000).]