child support

why do child support enforcement agencies agree to help collect support--then give you the run around? I do not understand why the non-custodial parents have all the rights! I thought if a court made a court order you could enforce it. I have been fighting for over 12 years for back support and no one seems to care--I cannot afford a private attorney--Do I have any options? I live in Paragould, AR and he lives in Boonville, IN.
The original order began in Medina,OH--I have since moved. I was told that after $5,000.00 it became a federal offense--apparently that is not true. No one will do anything about a court order for child support. Any help!!E-Mail Me Please!!!!
Xanadu@bscn.com

I understand your feelings. When you are trying to collect arrears from another state, that state is then involved. This makes things more difficult. That state has to be willing to cooperate. Some states are good about this and others are not. The state that is then petitioned to collect doesn't have as much jurisdiction and well....your arrears fall into the crack. The system is so overwhelmed with collecting support and arrears, it sometimes takes years before it will catch up to him......but eventually it will.

I went through the same sort of thing in Florida. Child support enforcement is the worst possible agency to deal with next to a used car salesman. I kind of took the back road. If you possibly can you need to confirm employment of your ex or at least income. Then you need to petition the court to domesticate your original order to the state you now reside in with the children.If you can successfully do this, you can do one of two things from your home state. Either inform the child support enforcement agency of the ex's employer and have an income deduction order placed or file for contempt. Technically speaking, you can do both on your own with some research. I did it in Florida and my ex lives in Illinois. The URESA act regarding child support makes it much easier to sue one party from one state and enforce it in another. They are many ways to bypass the child support agencies and basically just have them do record keeping for you. Good luck!

I'm sorry you've had such a tough time trying to collect child support. I really am. But please...NCP's DO NOT have all the rights! My husband pays CS every week, pays for medical ins., and hasn't seen his daughter in almost 3 years. His name is listed nowhere on any school records, and when we asked for her medical records, my husband had to go so far as to sign an Affidavit and show proof that he WAS her father.

My SD called one month after she received her father's b-day card to tell him she did not want him to contact her again. The BM said that she "is not going to be done with DH until he's done paying support."

NCP's DO NOT HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS! They are for the most part "walking wallets".

There is a difference between having no rights and not claiming the rights you have.

I do not know your circumstances.. but NCP have a legal right to visitation. If the CP refuses then you drag them into court.. if after many denied visitation you have grounds for custody etc..

I realize that. We have spent thousands of dollars and gone through 3 attorneys. They all say the same thing, "Just pay your support and go on with your life. The judge will not make her visit if she doesn't want to." We are out of money. It's hard to fight when the child herself tells you that she doesn't want you in her life and that she WANTS her step-father to adopt her. Of course, the mother will never let THAT happen because she wants the CS. We've tried for two years and gave up in April whe the child last called. This is Indiana, again. And everyone says it would do more harm than good to MAKE her have visitation. I do see where you're coming from though. The bio-mom is just a brainwashing psycho-and the child will pay the price.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Ronne:
[b]The bio-mom is just a brainwashing psycho-and the child will pay the price. [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I am sorry to hear.. that one exception to the rule is when the child refuses to visit. The one area that really annoys me is where one parent brain washes the child.. because from a young age, if they do not want to be with you.. then there is little you can do about it

Personally, I think that if the child decides to have nothing to do with the NCP then you should be able to stop child support. That will certainly change the tune of the CP when talking about the NCP..

usdeeper-THANK YOU! THANK YOU! You have no idea how good it is to hear someone say that! We USED to have SD all the time. Until her mother re-married. Then, she starts calling the SF "Dad", and refused to visit. My husband send b-day cards, x-mas cards, letters, etc. ALL SENT CERTIFIED RETURN RECEIPT. She acknowledges nothing.

After the vicious things she said back in April to my husband on the phone, I don't know how he would respond if she ever decided to come around. Her mother has really done a number on her, and it may never happen. We just don't know right now. That's why I get a little frustrated with people when they say the NCP's have "all the rights." It doesn't seem like my husband has ANY! Just the "right" to pay support, huh?

I know what everyone is talking about here. I too have gone through hell trying to collect child support. The worst thing is that her BF has abandoned her and his step daughter of 14 yrars. It is a shame. The sad part of it all isn't that the NCP wont pay child support. That is inconvenient but not the worst part. We must not forget that the children are stuck in the middle and get the brunt of the storm from both sides. We should never turn our children against the other parent. I personally didn't have to do that. He did a fine job of that himself. My heart just aches for the children who have to go through this ordeal. They are the ones who really suffer. Be it not enough money or not enough love FROM BOTH PARENTS, they are the ones who hurt from this! Divorce is a sad thing, but necessary sometimes. I have made mistkes in dealing with this, but I do try to consider my children first. It is hard at first, but we have to keep them in mind first. Remember, children learn what they live. Teach them well.
Twiggy

[This message has been edited by twiggs2u (edited July 25, 2000).]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Ronne:
[b]That's why I get a little frustrated with people when they say the NCP's have "all the rights." It doesn't seem like my husband has ANY! Just the "right" to pay support, huh?[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Rights in the US is determinded by how much money you have. Sad, but so very true.




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