Child Support & Custody

Hi there I will try to make this long story as short as possible.My husband of two years has a child from a previous(non-martial)relationship. The relationship didn't work because my husband who already has 3 children did not want anymore children and told is ex this at the beginning of their relationship. Needless to say things didn't work out she kept getting mad at him for not letting her have kids.He asked her to move out.(unfortanetly I have to get very specific right now. He says he always wore condoms until she was on birth control)after she moved out they still continued to see each other on occasion. Needless to say she went of birth control and never told him. She got pregnant and then came to him after she was well into her 4th month to tell him she was pregnant and there was nothing he could do about it. she also admitting as to going off birth control and not telling him.
After the child was born he tried to be active in his sons life and the mother basically refused to even let him see his son unless she needed something. My husband was always there and willing to help her and his son in any way possble. Now after 3 years and after his ex basicallly told him to got lost because she got what she wanted from him she is taking him to court for full custody without any visitation and she also wants full child support from him. She already maeks double what my husband makes and has excellent medical coverage through her teamsters. what rights does my husband have to protect himself? we can't afford a lawyer, as we basically live pay check to paycheck so he is trying to represent himself in court.

This is almost exactly what my fiance and I are going thru and we go to court for the first time tomorrow. My fiance is 50, and told her he didn't want any kids, he has 2 growns kids and 1 grandson age 10 and another on the way. She got pg almost as soon as they started seeing each other and she told him she was on birth control. Don't men have any rights as to if they want to become fathers or not? It shames me as a woman that so many women trap men this way or they get pg just for free money. We have e-mails from her stating she will send papers to have him permantly removed from being the babies father, but she never sent any papers, we also have mails wishing his death, which leads me to believe she was hoping shed have this baby and he would die and she could collect his SS money free and clear. My step-mom did that, 10 mnoths after my dad died she had a kid and claimed it against his SS. We also live paycheck to paycheck and don't have money for a lawyer, we were going to seek legal aide but some told us thats the state going after the state won't help us. We are going to ask for a DNA test and hope they allow it, if its his baby we are going to ask for our rights for weekend visitations without the mother, the baby is 1 1/2 yrs old. He moved in when she first told him she was pg and left a few weeks later. Its sad that people have to use babies to hold onto people or for free money. I wish you luch in your case, and hope theres good luck for us tomorrow in court and things lean our way.

sadly our situation began the same way. my stepchildrens mother was never married to my husband. the second child they had came about after a one night stand (they had been broken up for quite some time) she admits she got pg on purpose, she didn't want him seeing me. to your problem. he will need to file his own petition or motion as the case may be. if he contests paternity then he needs to file a motion requesting a paternity test, although the judge may order it anyway if he tells him the child may not be his. here in Va. that still left my husband to pay the bill. if he knows the child is his, don't deny it, simply file the appropriate papers requesting visitation and ask that child support be set by state guidelines. i hope things work out for you