CHILD SUPPORT ORDER

I FEEL HELPLESS! I have been trying to find information for a friend. He has recently been to a child support hearing for a baby that was born to a woman who he had intercourse with once, it was not a relationship but she did get pregnant, and he turned out to be the father. He was told he had to pay child support which they set, and also he has to pay back the state for the birth of the child, because she was on title 19. My question is does the father have to pay this? Is there any way he can be releived from this huge debt? How can women get away with having adult concensual sex, but the man never consenting to having a child. Then the women goes and collects child support, and the man has to pay all of the medical debts incurrred by her. He never signed up for title 19 so why does he have to pay for it. Please if you can give me any adive or answers to this question please let me know. Thank you.

When you play, you have to pay. The child deserves to have the support of boh parents, even if it's just financial support. Hopeflly your friend will have a relationship with the child as well. As far as the cost of the delivery, I would tell him to seek counsel on that. I could see making him pay half of the cost, but not the whole thing. Father's still get screwed over most of the time, but thank god, it's getting a lot better for them.

[usmcfamily]

Okay....from experience.....yes, the state will hold him responsible for the medical/court costs incurred in the pursuit of support from him. Why? Because he is the respondent in this matter - meaning that the state has been financially responsible for his child up to this point and now responsibility is landing on his doorstep. The mother sought financial assistance from the state - it is cheaper for the state to pursue support from your "friend" than for them to support the child with our (the taxpayers of this great nation) money! I realize you have said there was no relationship, but there WAS sex ---- and regardless of how you feel.....this pregnancy was NOT without your "friends" consent - he consented when he dropped his pants with a woman whom he was not even in a relationship with and FAILED to protect himself. Not going to be a popular response w/you I am sure but we all learn the birds and bees in 4th grade these days ---- so sorry, no sympathy.....he knew that there was a chance (no matter how remote he thought it was) that having sex with her, or any woman for that matter, could result in a child --- by choosing to have sex he chose to take that risk....now he takes responsibility.
If your friend is interested in being more than a financial contributor - and I suggest he thinks about it long and hard - I would suggest he pursue a relationship with this child. He may not have planned on being a father, but he is and it is DEFINATELY to the childs advantage to have father - watch the news and you will see how important a father is.
He may not have planned this but it is what he has gotten so now he needs to find a way to do what is right by the baby!

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by NANCYUDELL:
[b]I FEEL HELPLESS! I have been trying to find information for a friend. He has recently been to a child support hearing for a baby that was born to a woman who he had intercourse with once, it was not a relationship but she did get pregnant, and he turned out to be the father. He was told he had to pay child support which they set, and also he has to pay back the state for the birth of the child, because she was on title 19. My question is does the father have to pay this? Is there any way he can be releived from this huge debt? How can women get away with having adult concensual sex, but the man never consenting to having a child. Then the women goes and collects child support, and the man has to pay all of the medical debts incurrred by her. He never signed up for title 19 so why does he have to pay for it. Please if you can give me any adive or answers to this question please let me know. Thank you.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

My response:

I have to make a few comments, first.

I loved your statement that: ". . . born to a woman who he had intercourse with once."

That's all it takes, is once, in most cases. How many times do you think intercourse must occur before conception can take place? Two, Five, Eight, times?

Also, I was enthralled with your statement: ". . . but the man never consenting to having a child."

I can just hear it now: "I do not consent to your pregnancy. You SHALL NOT have a child. I command you !!"

Believe me when I tell you, "consent" is not required by a man. She could have aborted the fetus, true. But, she didn't need his consent to do anything. She had it last, and can do what she wants with it.

Yes, he's responsible for paying back the State because that's part and parcel of the responsibility of having a child - and it is his child. If she's still on Title 19, then she obviously can't afford the medical costs. And, since the State used TAX DOLLARS to pay for his "indiscretions," then it is up to him to reimburse the citizens' tax money.

We are not responsible for his child. He is.

PAY IT !!


IAAL



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