child welfare

I really need to know how to go about getting child custody, child support and absolutely no visitation. We were never married. His current girlfriend has threatened my child's life and I do not wish to have my child in that environment. I also wish to move from this state and need to know if that is possible. Also, how do I go about changing his last name from his to mine. He has a law settlement coming, is my son entitled to any of that through child support.

[LegalBeagle]

Is there any proof of the threat, abuse or neglect by either your ex or the g/f ?

I have filed a police report from the day she tried to jump me and forcefully remove my child from my car. He was there and sat and watched. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LegalBeagle:
[b]Is there any proof of the threat, abuse or neglect by either your ex or the g/f ?[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

[LegalBeagle]

I forgot to ask.. what court orders are currently in place ?

none. this will be the first time i've ever thought to make it legal...

[LegalBeagle]

Then to state the obvious, you need an attorney. You should get a court order for physical custody before you allow any unsupervised visitation as if he ever refused to return the child then you would be stuck with no immediately legal means of having the child returned.

For visitation, present the proof that you have and have your attorney request that it is either supervised visitation or that the g/f has absolutly no access to the child.

Child Support is worked out with many factors. You will not be entiltied to that settlement but he can use it to pay any back support you are owed. Becareful, he could also use that money to get a good attorney so act fast.

So should legal aid be able to help. Or should I try to obtain a bonafide lawyer. I called a couple places and they said it runs about 4,000 if he doesn't contest and 5,000 if he does- as a retainer. Price subject to go up. =) I'm not rich but my son's welfare s my top priority. If I need the latter, I'm sure I can scrape it together. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LegalBeagle:
[b]Then to state the obvious, you need an attorney. You should get a court order for physical custody before you allow any unsupervised visitation as if he ever refused to return the child then you would be stuck with no immediately legal means of having the child returned.

For visitation, present the proof that you have and have your attorney request that it is either supervised visitation or that the g/f has absolutly no access to the child.

Child Support is worked out with many factors. You will not be entiltied to that settlement but he can use it to pay any back support you are owed. Becareful, he could also use that money to get a good attorney so act fast. [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Also, I think that if no custody or support or visitation orders are in effect, you can move without getting permission. You just better do it fast and get residency established before he gets a lawyer where the child currently has residence. This way he can't really contest the move I don't think.

thank you, i think i'll be leaving in december... <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by newmom:
[b]Also, I think that if no custody or support or visitation orders are in effect, you can move without getting permission. You just better do it fast and get residency established before he gets a lawyer where the child currently has residence. This way he can't really contest the move I don't think.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

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[This message has been edited by Always searching (edited October 14, 2000).]