children's right's re: visitation

Do children have the right to decide if they do not want to visit the non-custodial parent occasionally? We live in Texas. The non-custodial parent does not get the kids, 7,9,11, very often, but occasionally when he wants them, one or more have a sports activitiy that they don't want to miss, or a slumber party, etc. Can the visitation be modified, or can anything been done to accommadate their wishes? He is not willing to consider what they want, so unfortunately, there is no cooperation regarging their feelings. Any ideas?

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How amusing it is to see your rendition of what is happening in your life... Michelle. You are teaching your son to hate his father... smiling and thinking it is so cute when he called his dad a loser and rasberried him ... (only a few nasty comments out of the many that he made)... Your husband cried that night. You laughed... you thought your son's behavior was funny.

There are witnesses to this rediculous situation.

You have decided to take your hate out on him through your children... just as you have decided to take your own emptiness out on me by spreading lies and threats.

My question is actually why? I never told you your husband was going to keep your kids... and you know it regardless of how well that myth suits your current behavior. I lied to you about your husbands paycheck --because he asked me too. He needed some of his money and couldn't afford for you to take all of it... afterall, you had already left him.. why do you think you were entitled to his paycheck? Especially when he was paying you every dime you requested.

You are the one who has committed adultery both during your marriage and after you filed for the divorce. You are the one that spends 16 plus hours a day on the computer with your cyber friends thus allowing your children to live in filth much less have home cooked meals. You are the one that has had your children hiding under their beds from their father... You are the one that is teaching your children that they should stick their toungues out at their father and tell him that they hate him. You actually saw him do it and you laughed!

I am so sad for your soon-to-be ex... he was nothing but good to you. But I am even sadder for your kids. They are such beautiful kids and they used to radiate happiness -- but not anymore.

You might be angy at what I have said... but you should know that I have not SLANDERED you... I can prove everything I've said... with witnesses, disks, and photos.

So, in closing... You ask for advice on whether your children's visitation can be modified... Well, in answer, you have already modified it, haven't you? You dragged your youngest daughter into a restroom and told her (for almost 10 minutes) that she was not allowed to go to her daddy's... Your son doesn't want anything thing to do with his daddy... this is the same boy that only two months ago loved his dad so much that he wanted to live with him. And your middle daughter... well, she is just wants to keep her life calm.

Why don't you just wait to see what the court orders in your case? Perhaps your brainwashing of your children will work... maybe you'll get custody of them and you can move them to Boston with your cyber-fiancee as you have told your children your are going to do. Maybe your nasty rumors of your husband and me having the "affair" will help you... Better have pictures of us in bed.. his car at my house isn't enough to prove anything other than the truth... and that is that he comes to my home to cry and seek compassion for what you are doing to him and his kids.

You are making a lot of mistakes. I am actually sad for that. However, I am tired of your threats. So, you are going to get me back??? You are going to ruin my life??? I have heard this now from a couple of people... Well, Michelle, if you are so empty that you feel that you have to share it with others I guess there is no stopping you. But... let me say this. I have a husband who loves me, I have a pretty home, three happy kids. It doesn't matter what you do because we will overcome anything that you could do to us... anything. We have already protected ourselves against anything that we could foresee that you would try against us... and sadly, I, (we), could always stoop to your level and distribute your own words, (some of the more descriptive tids and bits)to every person you have ever been in contact with. But, of course, I don't want to do that.

It is always in the best interest of the children to have contact with BOTH parents. Can your ex-husband participate in the activities with the children? If so, why don't they want to go with him? and if he cannot, can you make arrangements with the activities that would allow for them to have a day off so that they could see their father? I am sorry, but I feel that it is so important for the children to have both parents. I hope things work out for you.

You say yourself that your children do not see their father very often but you obviously think that slumber parties should still be more important than visitation with their father. You need to grow up. How do you expect to be a good parent when you obviously do not have your priorties straight.

Poetic Heart,

You obviously think you know me, but I am not whomever you think I am.