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I just talked to an online legal here about my proposed divorce and child custody matter. Apparently my case was so unusual that he had no advice other than that I should post the matter here. I hope one of you can help. Email me at [email protected] please.
I have an unusual situation. I am an American Citizen, but live in Chile as a College professor and have done so for over 4 years. I am a permanent resident of Chile (akin to having a green card). My wife is under the same residency situation.
We have 6 kids, ages 4 to 12 who live with us. We were married in Michigan 16+ years ago
My wife has been committing adultery with many (at least 5 men and one woman) over the last few years (or maybe longer). I have emails and other evidence of this fact. I, on the other hand, have been faithful. So I want a divorce for cause. I just cannot take it any more.
I also want the kids, and the older ones have said that they would want to go with me. They have seen mom getting naked (or close to it) in front of the PC camera and write sexy notes to boyfriends who were just seen by them as big penises on the screen. They are not pleasaed with my wife either to say the least.
My wife does not know that I know about her affairs or that I am planning to divorce her yet.
Now here are the problems: (1) Divorce is illegal in Chile, (2) we are not residents of a USA state, even though I am willing to move back to become one to make the divorce work, and (3) I may have a job change to Guatemala soon.
I can divorce in Guatemala but it will be a bit complicated and take some time. Also the courts there might favor splitting the kids between us which would be bad.
So I need to know how to proceed. The assets we have are mostly in an irrevocable family trust and will likely be dealt with apart from this matter without much difficulty.
I am 37. My wife is 35 and used to be an LPN. I want to be able to move with the kids without her approval.
Here is what the advisor said:
Advisor1: That could be a problem if divorce is illegal in Chile and you do have to be in the U.S. and a resident in a state to get a divorce here. I really don't know what you can do until you return to the U.S. Are you able to get a divorce in Michigan, the state where you were married?
Reply: I want a divorce for cause. I have seen on the net that South Dakota and Idaho have little residency requirements and permit divorce for cause. I am willing to go back to the best state that meets my needs the fastest. Where would you advise? Would you suggest getting her to sign a form for custdy on threat (if it could be done in such a way to not be blackmail -- suggestions?) that in will expose her and her lovers if she does not? Michigan is complicated because it takes 6 months of residency at least and there is no divorce for cause.
After looking at all the states, it seemed like Idaho and SD best fit my case to make it go fast. I have also been thnking of getting a form for child custody. Does anyone have one that would work for me?
The get a lawyer page on this site says they have no lawyers listed under IDAHO or SD, at least none for divorce, etc.
I have an unusual situation. I am an American Citizen, but live in Chile as a College professor and have done so for over 4 years. I am a permanent resident of Chile (akin to having a green card). My wife is under the same residency situation.
We have 6 kids, ages 4 to 12 who live with us. We were married in Michigan 16+ years ago
My wife has been committing adultery with many (at least 5 men and one woman) over the last few years (or maybe longer). I have emails and other evidence of this fact. I, on the other hand, have been faithful. So I want a divorce for cause. I just cannot take it any more.
I also want the kids, and the older ones have said that they would want to go with me. They have seen mom getting naked (or close to it) in front of the PC camera and write sexy notes to boyfriends who were just seen by them as big penises on the screen. They are not pleasaed with my wife either to say the least.
My wife does not know that I know about her affairs or that I am planning to divorce her yet.
Now here are the problems: (1) Divorce is illegal in Chile, (2) we are not residents of a USA state, even though I am willing to move back to become one to make the divorce work, and (3) I may have a job change to Guatemala soon.
I can divorce in Guatemala but it will be a bit complicated and take some time. Also the courts there might favor splitting the kids between us which would be bad.
So I need to know how to proceed. The assets we have are mostly in an irrevocable family trust and will likely be dealt with apart from this matter without much difficulty.
I am 37. My wife is 35 and used to be an LPN. I want to be able to move with the kids without her approval.
Here is what the advisor said:
Advisor1: That could be a problem if divorce is illegal in Chile and you do have to be in the U.S. and a resident in a state to get a divorce here. I really don't know what you can do until you return to the U.S. Are you able to get a divorce in Michigan, the state where you were married?
Reply: I want a divorce for cause. I have seen on the net that South Dakota and Idaho have little residency requirements and permit divorce for cause. I am willing to go back to the best state that meets my needs the fastest. Where would you advise? Would you suggest getting her to sign a form for custdy on threat (if it could be done in such a way to not be blackmail -- suggestions?) that in will expose her and her lovers if she does not? Michigan is complicated because it takes 6 months of residency at least and there is no divorce for cause.
After looking at all the states, it seemed like Idaho and SD best fit my case to make it go fast. I have also been thnking of getting a form for child custody. Does anyone have one that would work for me?
The get a lawyer page on this site says they have no lawyers listed under IDAHO or SD, at least none for divorce, etc.