confused

after not seeing my son for his 2.5 year life his dad wants to see him now,he refuses to set up a visitation schedule, which there was already one in affect,he wants to have him 2 times a week, i think every two weeks is plenty, he refuses to go by the visitation schedule, I hate this man i`d like to never see him again,he`s no good ,he`s a liar, a drunk sleeps with every thing, at least 3-4 liveins since me , i dont want my son around that,he came from a family that have no morals they keep having kids and live off the system,no offence to anyone out there that needs help i understand that,but i grew up in a family yes they have money but they worked hard i`m not doing great finacially barely making it but i work for my money, anyway i dont want my son around that , but i know i have to, everytime i say something about a regular time he says he`ll just get custody he says he`s been to a lawyer, if i keep letting him see him his case will get stronger he`ll have established a period of seeing him

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

He's bluffing you because you don't know any better.

Get an attorney and haul him into court for strict, scheduled, visitation orders.

Don't take his crap. Get proactive and start defending what's yours. He can't just run your life for you.

IAAL


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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by I AM ALWAYS LIABLE:
[b]My response:

He's bluffing you because you don't know any better.

Get an attorney and haul him into court for strict, scheduled, visitation orders.

Don't take his crap. Get proactive and start defending what's yours. He can't just run your life for you.

IAAL


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im just worried about his intent,he has 3 month old he`s paying support on too, all of a sudden he`s getting married and want to see his son so much,I worry that he`ll start seeing him regularly then take me to court,after 2.5 yrs he`s tring to tell my how to raise my son, he say`s im not taking care of him,one day he was dirty when he just showed up,I found myself explaining to him why he was dirty, he was playing outside when I dont owe him any explanation,my son is my life I cant lose him he has no dirt on me I dont do anything I have books of things on him ,he lies constantly,I`ve caught him in several lately,things he`s told me later he`ll deny he ever said,things that look bad for him like him being homeless before moving in with his fiance`s parents but say`s he never said that and other things like that,when I take him to court can I have him sign something saying he wont try to get custody because he says as long as i let him see him he wont but I dont trust him

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jakob:
[b]im just worried about his intent,he has 3 month old he`s paying support on too, all of a sudden he`s getting married and want to see his son so much,I worry that he`ll start seeing him regularly then take me to court,after 2.5 yrs he`s tring to tell my how to raise my son, he say`s im not taking care of him,one day he was dirty when he just showed up,I found myself explaining to him why he was dirty, he was playing outside when I dont owe him any explanation,my son is my life I cant lose him he has no dirt on me I dont do anything I have books of things on him ,he lies constantly,I`ve caught him in several lately,things he`s told me later he`ll deny he ever said,things that look bad for him like him being homeless before moving in with his fiance`s parents but say`s he never said that and other things like that,when I take him to court can I have him sign something saying he wont try to get custody because he says as long as i let him see him he wont but I dont trust him [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

My response:

He's not going to sign anything. He wants to be able to deny certain facts. So, you're fooling yourself. And besides, how would you write such an agreement? Would such an agreement be enforceable? Really, you need to see an attorney and get him into court for custody, visitation, and support orders. These are the types of orders that are enforceable.

Stop playing lawyer. The more you do, the deeper your problems become.

IAAL


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Don't play his game! Don't let him see you are scared and don't ever let him see your son! If you honestly (and I know you do!) see him as a threat to your son then legaly you need to go to court and establish that. If money is a problem you can look into legal-aid which may help even if your not completly poor of if your case doesn't fit their criteria by getting you a pro-bono lawyer. DO NOT let this man take your child away from your home because if you do then he CAN say "well, how can I be a bad influence if she let me take him?"

I understand your dilemma although I have not been faced with the father in my sons case returning and demanding visitation (thank God!) But my sons two and his father has been out of the picture almost his whole life. Also a drinker and a less than nice person.

Good luck!

Please feel free to e mail me if you need someone to talk to ... TattooGirl0902@aol.com

Robin*