CONTACT DURING VISITATION

My six year old daughter recently burnt her leg on her motorcycle. The burn looked good when she left for her visit on the 4th of July. But while she was with her father, his mother and girlfriend decided that she needed to go to the emergency room. They did so without trying to contact me. She is due to go again tonight, is there anything legally stopping me from going to his house to take care of her leg and giving her the medicine? They do not have a phone, so I can't call and check on her.

What can I do?????

[This message has been edited by MFUNK (edited July 07, 2000).]

[This message has been edited by MFUNK (edited July 07, 2000).]

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MFUNK:
[b]My six year old daughter recently burnt her leg on her motorcycle. The burn looked good when she left for her visit on the 4th of July. But while she was with her father, his mother and girlfriend decided that she needed to go to the emergency room. They did so without trying to contact me. She is due to go again tonight, is there anything legally stopping me from going to his house to take care of her leg and giving her the medicine? They do not have a phone, so I can't call and check on her.

What can I do?????

[This message has been edited by MFUNK (edited July 07, 2000).]

[This message has been edited by MFUNK (edited July 07, 2000).][/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


My response:

Why do you believe your permission is required for your daughter to receive "professional" medical attention?

The wound may have "looked good" when your daughter left your house, but with the onset of infection, wounds get worse, resulting in even worse problems. The father, etc., obviously feel that something more than "home treatments" are advised for the burn, and the child's treatment comes first.

What's going on here? Why do you seem to be in such a panic over your daughter receiving a doctor's care and treatment? And, why is six year old riding a dangerous, motorized, hot engine, machine? Are you afraid that the hospital will call CPS on you for the child's burn?

IAAL



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FIRST OFF, I AM NOT AND DID NOT MEAN TO SEEM UPSET THAT MY DAUGHTER RECIEVED MEDICAL ATTENTION. IF THAT WAS YOUR CHILD, WOULDN'T YOU HAVE WANTED TO BE NOTIFIED THAT SHE WAS GOING TO THE ER SO YOU COULD HAVE GONE ALSO. THAT IS THE PROBLEM I HAVE. THERE WAS NO ATTEMPT TO CONTACT ME OR TO GIVE ME ANY INFORMATION EVEN AFTER SHE RETURNED HOME. SHE WALKED IN THE HOUSE AT 9AM AND HANDED ME PRESCRIPTIONS. IT THEN TOOK ME 4 HOURS TO MAKE CONNECTIONS WITH HIM ONLY TO FIND OUT THAT SHE WAS DUE BACK AT THE HOSPITAL FOR A CHECK UP THAT AFTERNOON. ONCE AGAIN I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THE TREATMENT. BUT IT WASNT EVEN HER FATHER WHO MADE THE DECISION TO TAKE HER.

[MySonsMom]

I was thinking the same exact thing..They don't need your permission to seek medical attention for the child..

[MySonsMom]

Is it in the custody papers that he contact you in the event medical attention is given to your daughter? If so, then yes he should have contacted you. If not, it is his decision to contact you in this event. This is the downfall to split families, not everything goes your way or how you would like it to go.

YES, IT IS IN THE ORDER THAT "THE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT SHALL PROMPTLY INFORM THE CUSTODIALL PARENT OF ANY ILLNESS OF ANY SUCH CHILD WHICH REQUIRES MEDICAL ATTENTION"

I AM GREATFUL FOR THE MEDICAL ATTENTION SHE RECIEVED. I DID NOT MEAN TO SEEM UNGREATFUL. BUT HAD I KNOWN SHE WAS GOING I WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE. I ALSO WOULD NOT HAVE NEAR AS MUCH OF A PROBLEM IF HE WOULD HAVE AT LEAST EXPLAINED TO ME WHAT HAD COME OF THE VISIT (ER) INSTEAD HE LEFT THAT UP TO A SIX YEAR OLD??? THAT DOESN'T SEEM VERY RESPONSIBLE TO ME.

[MySonsMom]

Since it is in the decree he was wrong not to contact you asap. Let him know that he has a responsibility to contact you asap and that you are going to document this incident and if it continues to happen then you will take action. Good luck!

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