My first exwife has had custody of our 6 yr. old daughter since our divorce in 1995. Because I was living in GA and she was in OH at the time of our divorce, we had a special provision put into the decree. Since I couldn't get my daughter all the time, I wanted my mother to be able to get her. The decree states "the defendant and paternal grandmother shall receive reasonable rights of visitation with the aforementioned minor, according to the guidelines adopted by the local court rules." (I was the defendant.)
Since I moved back to OH in 1998, we've not gone exactly by the guidelines because we have gotten along and were both willing to try to work things out with my visitation. I try to get my daughter every other weekend. If I can't, we make arrangements for me to have her the next two weekends in a row. If I can't be there at the designated time to pick my daughter up, my mother or wife picks her up for me. This has never been a problem.
Now, because my ex is unhappy about it being my year to have my daughter on Christmas day, she is stating we must go exactly by the guidelines from now on. This has never been a problem for me, but I believe my ex is interpreting the decree wrong. She is stating that I am not allowed to get my daughter. She says that it is my mother's responsibility to pick her up and keep her. She told me that if my daughter stays at my house I will be in contempt of court. She says that until it is modified in court, that is the way it will be. I interpret the decree as saying that my mother and I both have the right to have my daughter and if I can't get her then my mother can.
Am I right or is my ex right?
Also, my ex doesn't want to follow any of the other guidelines (for example - sending clothing with my daughter, allowing phone conversations because she had her phone disconnected, providing me with school info., etc.) Is there anything I can do about this?
Since I moved back to OH in 1998, we've not gone exactly by the guidelines because we have gotten along and were both willing to try to work things out with my visitation. I try to get my daughter every other weekend. If I can't, we make arrangements for me to have her the next two weekends in a row. If I can't be there at the designated time to pick my daughter up, my mother or wife picks her up for me. This has never been a problem.
Now, because my ex is unhappy about it being my year to have my daughter on Christmas day, she is stating we must go exactly by the guidelines from now on. This has never been a problem for me, but I believe my ex is interpreting the decree wrong. She is stating that I am not allowed to get my daughter. She says that it is my mother's responsibility to pick her up and keep her. She told me that if my daughter stays at my house I will be in contempt of court. She says that until it is modified in court, that is the way it will be. I interpret the decree as saying that my mother and I both have the right to have my daughter and if I can't get her then my mother can.
Am I right or is my ex right?
Also, my ex doesn't want to follow any of the other guidelines (for example - sending clothing with my daughter, allowing phone conversations because she had her phone disconnected, providing me with school info., etc.) Is there anything I can do about this?