CUSTODY OF MY 3YR OLD; PART 2

MY CHILD WAS BORN IN THE STATE OF UTAH. HOWEVER, I WAS NEVER MARRIED TO THE FATHER AND HE HAS NOT HAD INVOLVEMENT IN THE CHILDS LIFE. I RECENTLY GOT MARRIED AND MY HUSBAND IS IN THE ARMY. MY QUESTIONS ARE; IF HE WANTS TO FIGHT FOR CUSTODY AND VISITATION, WILL I HAVE TO RETURN TO THE STATE OF UTAH, EVEN THOUGH WE DON'T LIVE THERE ANY MORE AND THAT IS NOT WHERE I WAS BORN OR RAISED OR HAVE SPENT MORE THAN 5 YEARS THERE? IF SO, WILL I HAVE TO GO BACK TO UTAH AND RETAIN A LAWYER REGISTERED WITH THAT STATE? CAN I MAKE HIM TRAVEL TO US TO HAVE VISITATION WITH OUR SON OR DO I HAVE TO TRANSPORT MY CHILD TO HIM. EVEN THOUGH I DESPISE HIM, I REALIZE THAT MY FEELINGS DON'T COUNT LEGALLY AND THAT I NEED TO DO WHAT IS BEST ALL AROUND FOR THE SAKE OF MY CHILD BECAUSE I LOVE HIM. WHAT KIND OF QUESTIONS WOULD THEY ASK IN COURT ABOUT ME? WE ARE PROVIDING SO GOOD FOR HIM. WOULD THE FACT THAT I CLOSED MY CASE WITH RECOVERY SERVICES HURT ME? HE QUIT HIS JOB WHENEVER THEY CAUGHT UP WITH HIM, AND I WAS TOLD THAT IF HE WANTED TO PAY SUPPORT THAT HE COULD HAVE GONE DOWN AND REOPENED IT AND THEY WOULD HAVE FOUND ME TO PAY ME. HE SAYS THAT NOW I WILL GET PAYED WHETHER I LIKE IT OR NOT AND THAT HE WILL TAKE OUR SON AWAY FROM ME. I HAVE NO PROOF THAT HE TOLD ME HE WOULD TAKE HIM AWAY. IS THAT ADMISSABLE IN COURT? PLEASE REPLY, ANYBODY OUT THERE. I REALLY NEED ADVICE AND WE CANNOT AFFORD A LAWYER RIGHT NOW. MY HUSBAND IS IN TRAINING AND WE HAVE BEEN IN MY CHILDHOOD HOME IN FLORIDA FOR ALMOST 6 MONTHS. THANKYOU IN ADVANCE

First of all, calm down. I am no attorney at all, don't know a lot, but I do know that you will hear from the biological fathers lawyer if he has one....and if you do, you will be given an opportunity to respond to whatever you get, if you get anything. Meanwhile, no news is good news, and you are worrying about "what ifs" right now. If he took no interest in the child before now, and quit a job to avoid child support, I would guess that he would leave you and the child alone. Use your energy being a good mommie and a good wife. He could have hired a lawyer if he wanted one. If he is not calling you, just don't call him, leave him alone too.