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goingbroke
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LONG MESSAGE AHEAD: PLEASE READ: I would be grateful for any advice or comments on the following: I have a young child and I was never married to her father. Paternity was established at birth as we did live together. Five years ago we broke up and have "shared" custody of our child without any court orders, etc. I was definietly the primary caregiver. This was in Alaska. I moved out of state (to Wisconsin) this year. I told her father I was moving to Wisconsin. I also told him that I would send her to visit at Christmas, Spring Break and Summer at shared expense. He said he didnt want me too but I did it anyway. While I was enroute, he filed an emergency court order, filled with outright lies and requested the court NOT to notfiy me as he didnt know where I went. He claims I vanished with our child and he was the primary caregiver. He WON that order and was granted full custody. He called me (he really knew where I was so he could) and told me he was coming to get our daughter. I called the courthouse (THANK GOD) and asked if any papers had been filed. I was informed that they had been and he had custody and that a hearing was set in less than two weeks. I had to hustle butt, cash in my retirment to obtain legal representation (I qualified for free legal help but due to time restraints couldnt obtain a lawyer fast enough through that program) get a ticket to AK ($1,800 due to no time for advance purchase fares) and appear in court. My reqesut for telephonic appearance was denied. He did come and get my daughter from school and brought her back to AK TWO days before the court hearing and enrolled her in school up there! Total traumatic event for her. In court, the father screwed up huge because he couldnt remember his lies, etc. Of course, I "won" and had to pay for my daughter's ticket back home. Another $900 bucks. I also am ordered to pay for her visits during the "interim" order 4 times a year. I want to sue him in small claims court to recoup my financial losses and for the EXTREME STRESS involved based on the fact that he intentionally lied under oath and manipulated the court system. I don't know if I can. Any ADVICE would be Graciously and Thankfully accepted.