Dad wants more time

Dad and I have joint legal custody of our child. I am the primary care-giver. Dad has him every other weekend and every other Wed/Thurs. night. He is now asking for every other week. I don't agree with that at this time. Our son just turned a year and I believe that he should have stability and a place to call his home. The father is upset with me and at one point said that if I don't agree to joint custody, every other week, he will file for full custody. I know he won't get that, it was a threat. He is trying to find dirt on me and is grabing at any little thing I might forget or do. What are his chances of getting every other week or even one more day. We live in Michigan.

[This message has been edited by jlt0617 (edited October 26, 2000).]

Let me try and understand this. Dad has the child
Week #1 Weekend
Week #2 Wed/thurs nite
Week #3 Weekend
Week #4 Wed/thurs nite

What does he want? Every Wed/Thurs night? Every Week? I am not clear on what you said. 'Splain better or someone else help me understand what she said he is wanting.
LadyBlu, decifer for me.

my husband is going into court to fight for the bare minimum in a few weeks. I dont think he will get more. we are worried enought about just getting everyoter weekends! He is crazy if he thinks hell het custody. He has to prove you unfit and that is hard to do. how did he get over nights when your child is so young? we want that too, but have been told we may not get it until the baby is 2-3. our attorney has not said we wouldnt get this. is this a topic discusse in court? did he have to fight to get these overnights so young?

[MySonsMom]

I wouldn't worry too much about him taking you to court. You are right, having shared custody like that is unstable and hard for a child to adjust to. Normally, the only way a situation like that will work is if BOTH parents agree to it, if not; then normally a set up like that is not granted. He is trying hard to scare you with threatening with full custody..it's ridiculous. Live your life, and go by the court order. If he takes you back to court, go. Stand your ground for the shared parenting, because it is unstable for most children. If you oppose, normally judges never award it. Good luck!

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[LegalBeagle]

The father wanted every other week.. ie, one week with mother... one week with father etc..

You have it. Now he wants every other week for the whole week or every other Wed - Sat. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Always searching:
[b]Let me try and understand this. Dad has the child
Week #1 Weekend
Week #2 Wed/thurs nite
Week #3 Weekend
Week #4 Wed/thurs nite

What does he want? Every Wed/Thurs night? Every Week? I am not clear on what you said. 'Splain better or someone else help me understand what she said he is wanting.
LadyBlu, decifer for me.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

No, we both agreed that when he turned 6 months he would have at least every other weekend. I was not nursing. I've been fortunate to have such a mobile child, easy going, and easy adaptable, but I really think you should wait until the child is at least 2 years. I've been doing a lot of research and it really is not in the child's best interest.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jamiet:
[b]my husband is going into court to fight for the bare minimum in a few weeks. I dont think he will get more. we are worried enought about just getting everyoter weekends! He is crazy if he thinks hell het custody. He has to prove you unfit and that is hard to do. how did he get over nights when your child is so young? we want that too, but have been told we may not get it until the baby is 2-3. our attorney has not said we wouldnt get this. is this a topic discusse in court? did he have to fight to get these overnights so young?[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

No, we both agreed that when he turned 6 months he would have at least every other weekend. I was not nursing. I've been fortunate to have such a mobile child, easy going, and easy adaptable, but I really think you should wait until the child is at least 2 years. I've been doing a lot of research and it really is not in the child's best interest.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jamiet:
[b]my husband is going into court to fight for the bare minimum in a few weeks. I dont think he will get more. we are worried enought about just getting everyoter weekends! He is crazy if he thinks hell het custody. He has to prove you unfit and that is hard to do. how did he get over nights when your child is so young? we want that too, but have been told we may not get it until the baby is 2-3. our attorney has not said we wouldnt get this. is this a topic discusse in court? did he have to fight to get these overnights so young?[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

How far do you live from one another?

How old is the child?

Is this a ploy for the father to pay less in CS?

What are his reasons? Just wanting to spend more time isn't enough for a judge to hand him what he wants.

I think he has plenty, but I'm not a judge.

If you live close enough to each other, what could it hurt?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Always searching:
[b]Let me try and understand this. Dad has the child
Week #1 Weekend
Week #2 Wed/thurs nite
Week #3 Weekend
Week #4 Wed/thurs nite

What does he want? Every Wed/Thurs night? Every Week? I am not clear on what you said. 'Splain better or someone else help me understand what she said he is wanting.
LadyBlu, decifer for me.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Sorry I didnt reply to this earlier, but yes you have it right Always...
I have been having major problems keeping my computer up all day. Stays up and running till I get to the Family Board then I get Illegal internal errors. Was only doing it to tildawn and jamiet's posts then started doing it to all...
But I thinks me fixed it, I am still here after 20 minutes..

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LadyBlu:
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I have been having major problems keeping my computer up all day. Stays up and running till I get to the Family Board then I get Illegal internal errors. Was only doing it to tildawn and jamiet's posts then started doing it to all...
But I thinks me fixed it, I am still here after 20 minutes..

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My response:

It's time to get Norton SystemWorks 2001.

No more computer problems !!

IAAL



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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by I AM ALWAYS LIABLE:
[b] My response:

It's time to get Norton SystemWorks 2001.

No more computer problems !!

IAAL

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[LegalBeagle]

jlt0617: I agree, it is not a good plan to have a 1 year old swop homes every week. I always disagree with those types of plans anyway so I would say that.

If you do not agree, then tell him no. He has no grounds for a change in custody and his chances of getting visitation changed to this effect are silm to nil.

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<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LegalBeagle:
[b]jlt0617: I agree, it is not a good plan to have a 1 year old swop homes every week. I always disagree with those types of plans anyway so I would say that.

If you do not agree, then tell him no. He has no grounds for a change in custody and his chances of getting visitation changed to this effect are silm to nil.

LB2: You know how cheap computers are? Best buy have a save as cash deal over an 18 month period and you can get a very good deal for under 1000.. or you can go to [url="http://www.peoplepc.com"]http://www.peoplepc.com[/url] You get a new computer AND internet connection for $25 a month over 3 years. So, if you currently pay $20 a month for internet then the computer will only cost you $5 a month. Just a thought.

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[This message has been edited by Always searching (edited October 27, 2000).]

My son just turned a year and that is why I don't plan to agree to more time. We are almost neighbors. The child support in this case is not issue, fortunately. He just wants to have him more. He knows he is welcome and time, any day of the week and he has not once, just stopped by to see him. I'm sure with him being married, it probably wouldn't be the most ideal situation, but when it comes to my son, I don't care who is around or who's house it is. And I'm sure my husband (if I was married) would understand this, because he knew about this whole situation before he had married me.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by California Sun:
[b]How far do you live from one another?

How old is the child?

Is this a ploy for the father to pay less in CS?

What are his reasons? Just wanting to spend more time isn't enough for a judge to hand him what he wants.

I think he has plenty, but I'm not a judge.

If you live close enough to each other, what could it hurt? [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>