Divorce or Annulment

This is my first post, so if please be patient with me.

In 1999 I was told by a girl that she was pregnant with my child. So, I married her. She had no proof or anything that she was pregnant, she was 16 at the time and I was 27 afraid of going to jail if I didn't marry her.

Throughout the marriage I did everything to make her happy, but she would constantly hit me and she punched holes in the trailer walls that I bought for us to live in.

We were married in September and we seperated in April. Since then, I have found out that she was cheating on me the whole time with different men. She would sneak out after I went to bed and come home just before I woke up. She even tried to get my 14 year old nephew to sleep with her, he had to climb up on his house to get away from her.

She stole things from my family and would lie about everything.

I also found out that she went to 5 other men before me telling them she was pregnant and they had to marry her, I was obviously the only one that fell for it.

During the short actual marriage, she had surgery to clean out her female organs. I was told that it was endometriosis, but come to find out, she had to have the surgery done to clean out the tissue that was there because she had contracted an STD that she never had cleared up, thus making her inferitile and never being pregnant in the first place.

Everytime she wasn't feeling good (which was about once a week or more) I would do what she asked and take her down to her grandmothers house, where she would leave and go off with other men.

She has also been in mental health hospitals before (which I didn't know about till after we seperated) and during the marriage (twice since we were married in september of 99) many times and is diagnosed with schitzophrenia, bipolar disorder and extreme paranoia.

I have also found letters that she had wrote while we were married to other men and women telling them that she wanted to be with them, along with acceptance letters of employment for me that I never knew of.

She also took out a life insurance policy on me and tried to poison me and the dog I bought for her. She also tried to get loans in my name after we seperated.

I have had to get an restraining order put on her cause she calls my home, my work, my families homes, and even my bosses home harassing me and my family. When she found out she told me that she would leave me alone, but that my loved ones better watch their backs. I don't know what she is capable of, but I know that it's a wonder that I am even alive right now.

If there is anyone out there that has had an annulment, could you advise me as to if this is enough grounds, or should I go ahead and get a divorce.

I have met someone that I really love. She treats me right, my family loves her, and I don't want to see her get hurt by my soon to be ex wife.

I just want to know which would be better for me to get based on the facts. Thank you for the advice in advance.

Before you get an annulment you might want to book time on the Jerry Springer show. There's gotta to be some money in this inbred situation somewhere! LOL

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Justus3:
[b]Before you get an annulment you might want to book time on the Jerry Springer show. There's gotta to be some money in this inbred situation somewhere! LOL[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

My response:

You just can't make stuff like this up. It's impossible. Only in rural America! And people wonder where Springer gets his guests. Our writer doesn't need legal advice - - he already knows what needs to be done. What he needs, however, is a Ringmaster and a Lion Tamer.

IAAL

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[This message has been edited by I AM ALWAYS LIABLE (edited October 17, 2000).]

[Krystalbubbles]

If it would get rid of her, I would go for it in a heartbeat.

[Illinois Parent]

My oh my! What a handful you have! It sounds like you got yourself in way over your head. You put your age at 27, though you sound too naive and trusting to have lived 27 years on this planet. That is not a bad thing, though. I wish more people were more trusting and less cynical. I'm just sorry to see someone get used seven ways from Sunday.

As far as an annulment vs. a divorce is concerned, that would be, I think, a matter of personal preference. I'd opt for the fastest way out possible. You said you are seperated, so you need to check with an attorney to see if enough time has passed for you to get a quick divorce. As I understand it, an anullment would require the cooperation of both parties involved. It doesn't seem as if you'll get that with your wife. Even if she said she would, I wouldn't want the rest of my life hanging in the balance, trusting her to her word. Her track record doesn't look good on that score.

Again, I'm sorry to see someone get that badly manipulated. But, time to move on and the quicker the better. I'd be out finding an attorney first thing in the a.m. And if money is a problem, sell the trailer and use that. Until you are divorced, you have as much right to marital assests as she does. But, of course, be a gentleman and offer her the chance to avoid attorney's fees by using your attorney with you for a 'no-contest' filing. Good luck.

ok, Ya'all this really isnt funny... I actually know people like this...
Scary scary thought...

[Illinois Parent]

Truth? This could be my husband's ex-wife's family. She was the only one in her entire family (6 siblings, 5 fathers) to be married BEFORE pregnancy. Actually, she is the only sister (4 girls) to have a child both IN wedlock and of the man she was currently with. That is why I feel for Hogfarmer71. He sounds a lot like my husband; sweet, naive, trusting, basically a good guy. We can all be glad that THIS woman's gene pool has sprung a permanent leak.

[This message has been edited by Illinois Parent (edited October 18, 2000).]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Illinois Parent:
[b]Truth? This could be my husband's ex-wife's family. She was the only one in her entire family (6 siblings, 5 fathers) to be married BEFORE pregnancy. Actually, she is the only sister (4 girls) to have a child both IN wedlock and of the man she was currently with. That is why I feel for Shawnstuff. He sounds a lot like my husband; sweet, naive, trusting, basically a good guy. We can all be glad that THIS woman's gene pool has sprung a permanent leak.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Another opportunity to use something that has been sticking in my brain:

The problem with the gene pool is that there is no lifeguard!