DO I FIGHT FOR MY CHILD OR LET THINGS BE ?

Hello to all that read my post. Please advise after reading my story.I have a 8 yr. old son who has been living with his father for the past 3yrs in california , during this time I have been living on the east coast (re-married & moved from CA. because husband is in the Navy). During the past 3 yrs my ex-husband has tried in every way to aggravate most my attempts in seeing our son, leaving me to take him to mediation to solve our disagreements. ( which worked out to our sons advantage in spending time with me (mom!). Also during this last 3 yrs our son has been labled as adhd (just 4 months after my move to the east coast)but thats not the issue I'm vocusing on, It's that the father didnt notify me about his decision to place our son on RITILIN even though we have Joint Physical and Legal Custody of our son,which we are supposed to share in decisions concerning everything in our childs life, also the father does not call me about anything concerning our son ,(like when he broke his arm at school) i didnt know until some days later, he wont answer the phone or call me back outside of our court orderd times ( which I gotten written and signed in mediation , because for some time there the father was not answering the phone at all to me), its stuff like this I just would not do to the father if our son was living with me, .....I only get our son for the summers and on the holidays and weekends which I have to take him to court to begin with, and the courts have always sided with me , because Iam being fare in how much time I ask for with my son. I have tried in the past to switch the father being the primary custodial parent , to me, so that I can have my son through some school years, but was never granted this request, because there was no substancial change in circumstances, however I think there is, just by what I have written here, plus my son is having behavorial problems in school and has been seeing therapists and psychologist . Do I continue to try and get my son for the school years or should I just let things be???????

It sounds like your son's illness, being placed on RITILIN, seeing therapists, and having behavioral problems might very well be considered a substantial change in circumstances, warranting a new custody hearing. If you can show that your custody would be best for your son, given his problems, you might be able to gain what you want.

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One thing about your question really grabs me....you say "Do I fight for my child or let things be?"......that is a question you should already have the answer to!! If you truly feel there is ANYTHING going on in regards to your son PLEASE fight for him.....he needs someone to take his side in all of this and you, as his mother, are the one he needs. YES....you need to get involved in this....to "let things be" would be a big mistake.
The fact that these things were done in regards to your son without consultation to you is a VIOLATION of the custody agreement.....can your ex say "contempt?" ....I hope you can prove that you were not consulted and did not agree ..... take it to court if you have to although I think if you even mention the word "court" things may change for your favor.....might as well try it and see.

I wish you and your son the best

good luck and God Bless