Ex plans on moving my sons without me knowing

Hi All,

Dont even know where to start. My soon to be ex and I have been seperated for 2 years, He has physical custody of my 3 sons ages 16,6, and 4 and I have physical custody of our 11 year old daughter.We both agreed to open visitation, and we agreed to letting the other see the child/children anytime we want.When I signed these custody papers over a year ago I wasnt in the right state of mind due to alot of emotional abuse, at the time I thought it was the best thing to do.For the past 6 months or so he has been driving all over the US to meet women that he has befriended online, its only for sex and he drags my youngest sons with him on these trips, and now I find out that when my boys are with me on thanksgiving he will be moving out of his house in Pa and moving in with some woman in NY That he also met online, I reside in Va, and I will not allow him to take my boys to NY, He plans on returning here to pick them up and then going right to NY state and start his new life, I found this out from a friend of his, he has no idea that I even know this and has no plans on telling me, he is just going to do it. What I plan on doing is not letting him in to get our sons when he comes to pick them up, I refuse to let him take them that far away, where I will never see them again, My sons dont even want to live with him, they want their mom, they say it all the time, can someone please advise me on this, the legal aspects? I see my kids about 2 weekends a month, only because of the long ride to Pa, and thats my only time off from work, I'm the one who calls them every day, he never makes any attempt to call his daughter or to see her..what can I do, very desperate here!! I plan on keeping my boys forever, emotionally and financially I'm 100% better than I was when I signed those papers.

This is a change in circumstances that would warrant filing for primary custody. I would suggest you file ASAP a petition with the court for change of custody... you will need proof that he is going to be moving, adn you might want to let him know that it is against the law for him to move the children out of state without approval of the court... that might buy you some time..