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janna
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Ok I apologize
You're right, bleak would be too realistic?
All it takes is love, and all will be well. Things will be great, especially for the child. Maybe she can even afford a nanny, or import an au pair, to help raise the child. Particularly if dad makes enough money to pay enough child support to provide for all the help she is going to need. Someone please put the links to the websites depicting the success stories for this young lady. All I can find are web sites with single and divorced people dragging their lives and kids through court modifications, taping telephone conversations, documenting evidence, fighting over evaluations to see who's the most unfit, complaining that their poor messed up kids counseling sessions with psychologists aren't helping....and then there's the teenage years.....mom's at work to make ends meet, the kid or kids are on their own to do _________________.??? And Ladyblu, forgive me, but I cannot even fathom having to keep track of 3 different fathers and stepmoms. How does the visitation work with that?
Even if she decides to raise this child alone with no contact or support from her ex-boyfriend, he can still come back later with a change of heart/agenda and wreak havoc in a hundred different ways. And if she pursues making him "man up" he will most likely demand his "rights" to the child too, causing a hundred different hells.... She needs to see the whole picture, and the long term picture, not just the cute cuddly baby
I am truly sorry, you guys, because I have yet to personally see a single or divorced mom raise a child successfully and well adjusted without a whole lot of money and a whole lot of help. And not many of them at that....
Someone please enlighten me to what really is in the best interest of children?
She says this child was not planned or wanted, so it's the biofather only who should have "kept it in his pants"? Why is it only men who have to "learn to say no" to sex if they don't want to be fathers and are involved with someone who also says they don't/won't get pregnant? Why don't women say no, and wait until it is planned and wanted with their partner? Doesn't everyone know that if you suspect you may have accidentally goofed in birth control methods, that the doctor can leagally prescribe birth control pills within 48 hours to prevent actual conception? No, babies should not be throw away items, but it should at least take more thought than letting the cat have a litter of kittens, eh?
To hurting: I truly just want you to be as informed as you possibly can get about this. It is a lifetime of 24/7 for 20 years and then some, that you are looking at. I am not being mean. Go read [www.divorcenet.com]for more ideas of what it is going to probably be like. You are committing to responsibilty for a life here. At least enter into this informed and realistically. For the chld's sake, know exactly what you're getting into, okay?
You're right, bleak would be too realistic?
All it takes is love, and all will be well. Things will be great, especially for the child. Maybe she can even afford a nanny, or import an au pair, to help raise the child. Particularly if dad makes enough money to pay enough child support to provide for all the help she is going to need. Someone please put the links to the websites depicting the success stories for this young lady. All I can find are web sites with single and divorced people dragging their lives and kids through court modifications, taping telephone conversations, documenting evidence, fighting over evaluations to see who's the most unfit, complaining that their poor messed up kids counseling sessions with psychologists aren't helping....and then there's the teenage years.....mom's at work to make ends meet, the kid or kids are on their own to do _________________.??? And Ladyblu, forgive me, but I cannot even fathom having to keep track of 3 different fathers and stepmoms. How does the visitation work with that?
Even if she decides to raise this child alone with no contact or support from her ex-boyfriend, he can still come back later with a change of heart/agenda and wreak havoc in a hundred different ways. And if she pursues making him "man up" he will most likely demand his "rights" to the child too, causing a hundred different hells.... She needs to see the whole picture, and the long term picture, not just the cute cuddly baby
I am truly sorry, you guys, because I have yet to personally see a single or divorced mom raise a child successfully and well adjusted without a whole lot of money and a whole lot of help. And not many of them at that....
Someone please enlighten me to what really is in the best interest of children?
She says this child was not planned or wanted, so it's the biofather only who should have "kept it in his pants"? Why is it only men who have to "learn to say no" to sex if they don't want to be fathers and are involved with someone who also says they don't/won't get pregnant? Why don't women say no, and wait until it is planned and wanted with their partner? Doesn't everyone know that if you suspect you may have accidentally goofed in birth control methods, that the doctor can leagally prescribe birth control pills within 48 hours to prevent actual conception? No, babies should not be throw away items, but it should at least take more thought than letting the cat have a litter of kittens, eh?
To hurting: I truly just want you to be as informed as you possibly can get about this. It is a lifetime of 24/7 for 20 years and then some, that you are looking at. I am not being mean. Go read [www.divorcenet.com]for more ideas of what it is going to probably be like. You are committing to responsibilty for a life here. At least enter into this informed and realistically. For the chld's sake, know exactly what you're getting into, okay?