Help! Ex GF is saying baby is mine!!

Hi! I was involved with a married woman a couple of years ago. She was supposedly seperated from her husband but still living with him. Anyway we dated for about 6 weeks and I met someone new. I told her that I couldn't see her anymore and 2 weeks later, she called and told me that she was pregnant. I never questioned her. I told her to have the baby tested (even pd for some dr bills) and if he were mine, I would support it and do what I was supposed to do. She never would have him tested. Just would call and harass which would cause problems with my life. I got married and adopted my wife's son and also have had a child with my wife who is now 11 months old.

Well, in March, the ex GF called and said that she would have him tested but that she wanted me to sign over my rights!! What? I said no way. IF he is mine, he has 2 other brothers that he needs to know. Well of course, we stillhave not been tested. So we assumed that he isn't mine.

Well, now 6 months later, here she is again, threatening to sue. We know that she probably won't but can I take her to court? The baby has her husband's last name. I want to get this over with, I do not want to go through this for the rest of my life. I don't know what she wants from me except money! Because I have told her that if I pay her support, that he is coming to my house. Do you think she is just trying to bluff me? Or do I have a leg to stand on? Can I take her to court even if he doesn't have my last name?

HELP! and thanks in advance.

This is crazy i will say. I assume since the child has the husbands last name, the husband is on the birth certificate. Therefore, in the eyes of the law, the husband is responsible for the child. Does her husband know that she's saying the baby could be yours? She will have to tell him, if he doesn't already know, b/c she's threatening to take you to court. I would think that you could go to a lawyer and ask to have a paternity test done b/c she is telling you that he may be yours. Then, i would make sure you are prepared to inform the judge that you do want visitation of the child. I admire you for wanting to be a part in this child's life should he be yours.Good luck and i hope if he turns out to be your son that she won't keep him from you.

Yes her husband knows that she is saying that he is mine. He is actually the first one to call us and tell us. We contacted a lawyer yesterday and he said that we should definately take it to court. But the only downfall is that WE have to pay for the DNA testing, which I think is wrong, but oh well. We will do what we have to do.

I can't tell from your post if you genuinely think that this child is yours.

As merely a suggestion, what about proposing to this woman that you will pay for the test if the child turns out to be yours, and she will pay for the test if the the child is NOT yours? Or even splitting the cost of the test, as you both benefit from knowing the truth one way or the other.

Naturally, the dilemma is who will pay for the test up front. Get an agreement in writing and simply, politely approach her with this compromise.

I suggest that being diplomatic is the safe route at this point, because if the child is, in fact, yours, you will have to deal with this for a good long time!

Best of luck!
Tim