help! situation heating up!

In VA.
I posted earlier about my ex-wife planning on getting married and moving our kids from VA to FL. She had not really asked me if that was okay, just assumed I would let her take the kids away, I guess. She also had her lawyer send me an order to increase child support, but with no changes to visitation etc.
My lawyer sent her lawyer back a letter saying we needed to see her paystub and income info for the child support issue, and that I also officially object to the move.
Today she had me served with papers (at work) saying she was getting married Dec 9th, she and the kids are moving over Christmas and she will give me 2 weeks visitation twice during the summer, and half of Christmas vacations and Easter vacations, and she wants to increase child support to an undisclosed amount.
Currently, we have shared custody, I have them one third of the time, she has them two thirds of the time. Neither the ex or myself have anything that would cause a judge to be concerned about our parenting.
I am panicking. Anyone have any advice, or words of wisdom as to how all this is going to play out?

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

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[jyoung]

saw your reply to this gentleman IAAL, if the exwife chooses to move away then why is it not her expense alone to assure visitation? You've seen my posts i think re.
I'm in Florida, she wants to go to NY. The bond idea is valuable for me as well. Thanks
(should I double the amount for NY lawyers though?)

[This message has been edited by jyoung (edited October 06, 2000).]

My husband is in this predicament. His ex moved to kids to FL several yrs ago. We live in TX and divorce filed in TX. He did not know he had any rights to contest or ask for travel. So, now legally, she doesn't even have to take the kids to the airport. From what I am hearing, if she wants to go to court, we will have to travel to FL. ?

Make sure you take care of this now. Also, I would hope the judge would be more lenient on CS since you are having to pay higher travel expenses because of her move. Wonder if that is negotiable?

Thanks IAAL.
I like the bond thing too. I also want to know how come she doesn't have to pay all travel expenses.
Also, if she's moving, why the urgent child support increase. At this point, I assume she has a new job to go to, but maybe not. What about the insurance that will obviously be changing?
How can their be guidelines drawn when her job is up in the air?
Maybe she wants it done before she moves and starts making much better money?

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[This message has been edited by I AM ALWAYS LIABLE (edited October 13, 2000).]