JUST GOT OUT OF A DRUG REHAB/CHILD SUPPORT

BEFORE I GOT LOCKED UP I ALWAYS SUPPORTED MY SON 200.00 A MONTH NOW I JUST GOT OUT OF A DRUG REHAB AND I GOT A JOB MAKING LESS MONEY. MY EX WIFE MAKES MORE THAN ME. I PICK UP MY SON EVERY SAT UNTIL SUN NIGHTS AND I BUY HIM ANYTHING HIS HEART DESIRES. NOW SHE IS TAKING ME TO COURT FOR ARREARS AND WANTS MORE MONEY. I HAVE A NEW FAMILY TO SUPPORT PLUS I SEND MY MOTHER 100.00 A MONTH BECAUSE MY DRUG ADDICT BROTHER SOLD EVERYTHING SHE HAD IN HER HOUSE. HE IS LOCKED UP NOW BUT SHE HAS NOTHING. CAN I DECREASE THE PAYMENT HOW CAN I SHOW THE COURTS FINANCIAL HARDSHIP? CAN SHE COLLECT ARREARS WHILE I WAS IN PRISON?

You always have the right to petition the court for a modification in the amount of child support if there has been a change in circumstances that impact your ability to pay - which having a lower paying job could do. The info about paying to help you mother, while a nice gesture, is not taken into account as your first obligation is to you children. Yousay you can't pay child support - then say you have him on weekends ans buy him anything he wants - you may want to re-think your priorities here. Food, clothes and shelter are more important to provide (which child support is to help pay for) than "buying himwhatever he wants."

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Hannah Jo is right in the fact that your first priority is to your child. It is sad that your brother is a druggie and has done bad things to your mother, but the fact remains that your first priority is to your child.

You are out of jail now, and able to find full time work. The courts may take your potential income into consideration and very well give your X what she is requesting. Both your income and CP's income are taken into consideration as well as how much time is spent with the child.

You stated that you buy the child anything his heart desires? This is wrong in the way that it will back fire on you and your child will start lying to get what he wants. "Mommy said I can't have ______, will you get it for me?" or " I wish I could have one of those toys, but Mommy always says no" What about the tantrums of not getting what he wants when he wants it. What happens when you don't have the money and he wants something?

I strongly suggest taking a parenting class to help you understand what goes through a child's mind when they don't get what they want or vise-versa. You don't want a spoiled child on your hands later on do you? Children get more expensive as they grow**************..

I JUST WANTED TO THANK YOU FOR YOUR REPLY. BUT I WOULD JUST LIKE TO SAY THAT A MONTH BEFORE I WAS RELEASED I HAD ALREADY STARTED PAYING CHILD SUPPORT AND I HAVE CONTINUED. MY EX WON'T TALK TO ME AND SHE HANGS OUT IN FRONT OF MY HOUSE WITH HER NEW BOYFRIEND WHICH WAS A FRIEND OF MINE AT ONE TIME. LAST SUNDAY WHILE I WAS NOT AROUND HER BOYFRIEND DISRESPECTED MY GIRLFRIEND AND CURSED HER OUT TELLING HER HE WAS GOING TO KICK HER ASS AND MINE BECAUSE SHE INFORMED THE GUY WHO SHE RENTS THE GARAGE TO THAT SHE DIDN'T THINK IT WAS A GOOD IDEA THAT MY EX HUNG OUT IN THE GARAGE UNTIL THE COURT DAY WAS OVER. SHE WAS RIGHT BECAUSE IT WAS STRESSING ME OUT THAT SHE WOULDN'T TALK TO ME TO SETTLE THING OUT OF COURT BUT YET AND ALL CAME AROUND MY NEIGHBORHOOD. WHEN I GOT HOME AND APROACHED HIM ABOUT CURSING MY GIRLFRIEND OUT HE PUSHED ME AND WE GOT INTO A FIST FIGHT. HE PUT A COMPLAINT ON ME BUT THEN DROPPED THE CHARGES AND SWORE TO GOD THAT IN WOULD GET HIS REVENGE BY DESTROYING MY CAR WHEN I WASN'T LOOKING. MY PLANS ARE TO NOT TO GIVE HER THE CHILD SUPPORT UNTIL THE DAY OF COURT. DO YOU THINK THAT IS A GOOD IDEA BEING THAT I WONT BE ABLE TO GET HER TO SIGN THE RECEIPTS CAUSE SHE WON'T TALK TO ME? ALSO WHEN I SAID I BUY MY SON ANYTHING HE DESIRES I DO BUT I HAVE ALSO BEEN PAYING CHILD SUPPORT. IF YOU CAN GIVE ME MORE ADVISE PLEASE HELP. I SUPPORT MY MOTHER AND MY SON NOT JUST MY MOTHER. I HAVE HAD A JOB SINCE AUGUST AND MY CHILD SUPPORT HAS NOT STOPPED. LIKE I SAID BEFORE I PAY 200.00 FOR MY SON AND I GET PAID 405.00 CLEAN A WEEK. SHE MAKES AT LEAST 35,000.00 A YEAR. DO I HAVE TO PAY MORE OR WILL THE JUDGE LET ME GET ON MY FEET FIRST BEFORE ASKING ME FOR MORE MONEY. CAN I SHOW SOME TYPE OF FINANCIAL HARDSHIP UNTIL I GET ON MY FEET. JUST A YEAR AND IF THE COURTS WANT MORE NO PROBLEM. MY QUESTION IS CAN I HOLD OFF THE INCREASE FOR NOW?

Please turn the caps lock off. I have this huge headache from you yelling at us, and usually when that happnes my evil twin appears and I have no control over the consequences of her actions. [img]http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net4/rail.gif[/img]

LOOK IF YOU DON'T TAKE MY SITUATION SERIOUS PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND AND LADY BLUE TAKE TWO ADVILS BEFORE READING WHATEVER I POST.
Thank You

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by DO EX-CONS HAVE RIGHTS?:
[b]LOOK IF YOU DON'T TAKE MY SITUATION SERIOUS PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND AND LADY BLUE TAKE TWO ADVILS BEFORE READING WHATEVER I POST.
Thank You[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


It is very hard to take someone that YELLS all the time seriously. You give people the impression you are a very angry person by writing with your caps lock on.

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Well, Ex Con, I hope you got all of your questions answered, because you'll never get another answer out of any of us. You also need an anger management course. You just pissed off a bunch of people from giving you any more valuable help you could have received.

When we ask that Caps Lock be taken off, we mean it.

IAAL

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[LegalBeagle]

I don't get some people.. you know, I have my own scorecard and out of the last 27 people we have asked to take caps lock off and repost, I can only remember 1 person doing so in a nice way.

So, we can 'assume' that anyone who posts in Caps will automatically get aggressive and have no thanks or appreciation for our help and time.

So why bother helping them in the first place..

look caps is not of importance right now especially for people who are just looking for help and not to be repremanded about how to be more technical on the computer. if you can't help me than just stop responding. i didn't come here for a computer course but just for some advise and to tell you the truth i surely don't want any of yours so just stay away from me and let others respond. thank you for not answering the question.

no need to get defensive. I understand that you are under alot of stress getting your ass kicked and all.But first off you need to send your child support in money orders and keep your receipt.Never let her sign a paper stating that she received it becasue that will not hold up in court. All she as to do is dispute it. So be careful! If your x girlfriend is hanging around your house call the law get it reported. YOu can show that to the judge so he will probably issue a restraining order. This situation sounds ugly so you will probably need to ask the judge to issue a nuetral place to pick up your child.As far as the increase well you will have to pay back the arreage although you and the judge can come up with something that is reasonable . But do keep in mind YOU WILL be paying more most likley guessing 20.00 a week more.When I fell behind that is what I was court order to pay was 20.00 extra a week. So good luck!!

I think that writing in caps is of no importance. Its obvious the guy isn't yelling. I think that its a pet peeve of some of you and you need to get over it! Oops. Was I shouting? We should all be serious when answering someone's question and not waste the time of others by watching this little cat fight. Its leaves room for me to question the ages of some of you. Sir, if you would like some simple advice from me, kindly write to me direct at christina27@onebox.com.

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Christina27:
[b]I think that writing in caps is of no importance. Its obvious the guy isn't yelling. I think that its a pet peeve of some of you and you need to get over it! [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

If someone can not be bothered to press one button to help those who spend a great deal of their time helping others then they deserve nothing. How much time was spent answering YOUR question today ? Was that time given by others worth a press of one button?

There are more considerate people I will help than inconsiderate people like yourself.

[Jenifa]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Christina27:
[b]I think that writing in caps is of no importance. Its obvious the guy isn't yelling. I think that its a pet peeve of some of you and you need to get over it! Oops. Was I shouting? We should all be serious when answering someone's question and not waste the time of others by watching this little cat fight. Its leaves room for me to question the ages of some of you. Sir, if you would like some simple advice from me, kindly write to me direct at christina27@onebox.com. [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

LadyBlu, you are TOO good! Just thought I'd compliment you on your 'supersleuthing' in calling this one like you saw it in the other thread!

Jenifa

Thanks, it really isnt that hard if you take a look at her profiles and questions, they dont match up, and then being the *rocket scientist* she is she even fubbed up and replied to one of her own posts as another poster...
Like I have said, obnoxious, rude......hmmmmm lots more that I can think of (but wont because they are too blunt to be posted here) and being neurotic the most important.
I find it really really scarey to think that some woman somewhere will have to allow her child to even spend one moment in this persons presence.