Well, my other court appearance was(first one) for the divorce and custody and child support. Nothing was even done with the divorce on that day. Me and her lawyer went in the back room, and he figured up the child support and daycare costs and she wanted to provide the medical insurance and have me pay half of it, which her total payments per month for her and my son was $300 a month. She wanted me to pay half of that. That was out of the question, considering I already had insurance on him, paying $50 a month for him. So I didnt agree to it. We took it before the judge and of course, it only takes common sense to just keep my insurance on him. Her lawyer told me that I would be getting every other weekend and holidays and vacations. The usual. I agreed to that and the child support and daycare, the daycare with hesitation. So when I went before the judge he asked me if I agree to the terms, I said yes. Well after court we went back to the lawyers office(next door) for the paper work, And I paid some of the child support for the first month. He drew up a temp. judgement which said everyother weekend etc... Then I asked which weekend would be my first weekend to get my son(keep in mind I hadent seen him at that time for about 5 months) he said "well, thats up to her" and I said "what do you mean that is up to her?" He then said that I had gotten "reasonable visitation rights" which means when she thinks it will be "reasonable for me to see him, how long and where". He said if I want any more than that then I need to get a lawyer and fight it. I was aware that I was getting that deal, if I was I would not have agreed to it! So I went home, and soon a judjement came in the mail, well I did not sign it because I did not agree to it. Then another judgement came in the mail with the judges signature on it. Since that day I have had two other court appearances that I have not went to. Im figuring "whats the point" And I still have insurance on my son, but have not been paying child support. I really cant afford what I agreed to. I think it is too much for my little income and for one child. I think if I am paying, then I should have a relationship with my son as well. And I cannot talk with her because she will not communicate with me in ANY way, she stoped talking to me 3 weeks after she left. Me and my family have tried geting in touch with her, but she refuses to talk with anyone, her parents just hang up the phone. To this current day I havent seen my son in a year and a half, and it is killing me, I dont know how much longer I can be without him. I beleive he needs his daddy as much as I need him. He is now 3 1/2 years old. I doubt he even remembers me. Also keep in mind that she commited adultery on me(which is the main reason for the breakup). And Im the one not seeing him! Go figure that one! I know that I have gotten myself in a heap of trouble for not going to court and paying child support, and now I really dont know what to do. I am willing to go to jail for a little while for my offenses, but the bad part is I will still not be seeing him after I get out. I would gladly pay any "reasonable" amount, just as long as I can see him. And have a relationship with him. I ageed to the dollar amounts so fast because I didnt feel that there was anything else I could do without a lawyer and because I was so eager to see him, I didnt want to mess that up. But like I said if I would have known the actual deal I was getting I would have not agreed to it. Mainly because with that power I will NEVER see him. She doesnt EVER plan on me seeing him again. I am 100% confident that if I go to court with a lawyer I will get my rights, because she has 0% on me, as far as to be denied my rights. But my question is, will I ever get my rights without a lawyer? She is living at home with no bills, so she can afford it, I live on my own and just barely get by. Will justice ever get done for a poor person like me? Thank you for listening and any input would be greatly appreciated......
