Legal Beagle! Please help!(RE: My ex wants to put son on adderal)

Please please please read my last posting?!?!? I have been reading your comments and I believe you could help.
Thanks!

First of all I am not takeing your ex's side. But the two of you need to put your child first. Sole custody or joint custody, medical problems should be discussed and handled jointly. My son is on Adderall and the only side affect he has to it is the fact that it decreases his appetite. My son has ADD, and the medication helps him greatly. I would find out how reputable this Dr is first thing. YOur ex telling him he will give him $20.00 or go out to eat makes me wonder how correct of a diagonis he was given. I talked to several people and my own family phyiscian even recommended the place I went. My son was diagonised in the third grade and with the federal laws in to place the last several years I finally have been able to get additional help for him finally. To my knowdlege this medication will not affect him by causing him to have a heart attack. Try and talk to your ex and explain and above all else tell him at the very begining of the talk that the two of you need to put aside everything except your son. Make him realize that he is and always should be PRIORTY ONE with both of you. Also become aware of what ADD and ADHD really is. CHADD is a real good source there are other sights on the web that will help you. You say your son isn't then know the info to tell your ex and show him what this is all about. Make him also find t about it too.

1. I appreciate your reply
2. I came to this board to get some LEGAL advice , not what your son is like on adderal.
3.I do not believe in medicating a child to substitute being an active parent.
4. I will not give all my life's misery's on here. I just want someone to lead me in the right direction.
5. I am almost 35 years old and I know what is best for my son and if you knew my whole story then you would keep to the subject of leading me in the right direction.( if there are anymore negative comments I will not respond. Postive and helpful feedback is very welcome.
6.LEAD ME

7. FOLLOW ME

8.OR GET OUT OF MY WAY.

Thanking you in advance for any cooperation

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MonicaJean:
[b]Please please please read my last posting?!?!? I have been reading your comments and I believe you could help.
Thanks![/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I am not sure I can help you.. it certainly is a mess, but I can not get past the part when he failed to return the child and you give up custody rather than file a couple of orders in court and have him done for contempt. I will read through it again later but not sure what I can add.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Snoopy 1:
[b]First of all I am not takeing your ex's side. But the two of you need to put your child first. Sole custody or joint custody, medical problems should be discussed and handled jointly. My son is on Adderall and the only side affect he has to it is the fact that it decreases his appetite. My son has ADD, and the medication helps him greatly. I would find out how reputable this Dr is first thing. YOur ex telling him he will give him $20.00 or go out to eat makes me wonder how correct of a diagonis he was given. I talked to several people and my own family phyiscian even recommended the place I went. My son was diagonised in the third grade and with the federal laws in to place the last several years I finally have been able to get additional help for him finally. To my knowdlege this medication will not affect him by causing him to have a heart attack. Try and talk to your ex and explain and above all else tell him at the very begining of the talk that the two of you need to put aside everything except your son. Make him realize that he is and always should be PRIORTY ONE with both of you. Also become aware of what ADD and ADHD really is. CHADD is a real good source there are other sights on the web that will help you. You say your son isn't then know the info to tell your ex and show him what this is all about. Make him also find t about it too.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Ok My posting didnt make it.

I wont go through it all again
Point" I want LEGAL advice"

1. LEAD ME
2. FOLLOW ME
3.OR GET OUT OF MY WAY

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by MonicaJean:
[b]1. I appreciate your reply
2. I came to this board to get some LEGAL advice , not what your son is like on adderal.
3.I do not believe in medicating a child to substitute being an active parent.
4. I will not give all my life's misery's on here. I just want someone to lead me in the right direction.
5. I am almost 35 years old and I know what is best for my son and if you knew my whole story then you would keep to the subject of leading me in the right direction.( if there are anymore negative comments I will not respond. Postive and helpful feedback is very welcome.
6.LEAD ME

7. FOLLOW ME

8.OR GET OUT OF MY WAY.

Thanking you in advance for any cooperation[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


I take back my above response.. I have no intention of posting anymore to this thread. Your treatment to Snoopy1 is unacceptable.


[This message has been edited by LegalBeagle (edited October 17, 2000).]

[MySonsMom]

&lt;&lt;Ok My posting didnt make it.

I wont go through it all again
Point" I want LEGAL advice"

1. LEAD ME
2. FOLLOW ME
3.OR GET OUT OF MY WAY&gt;&gt;

Geesh: That attitude on this board is spreading oh so quickly....I almost can't stand it anymore.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LegalBeagle:
[b] I am not sure I can help you.. it certainly is a mess, but I can not get past the part when he failed to return the child and you give up custody rather than file a couple of orders in court and have him done for contempt. I will read through it again later but not sure what I can add.

[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
i THOUGHT "HEY if you really think you can swing being the primary care giver then go for it" that was my attitude. I knew my ex would fail. He had my son in a closet screaming that I was beating him at the time yet there were no marks on his body it was all a ploy to regain custody of him by me ex. Anyhow I was S T U P I D. I live in Wisconsin and we hadnt been here the 6 months yet I was 21 days shy when my ex didnt return him from Minnesota. that is where I lived before we moved to this state. So residence was already established in Mn. I gave up rather then to put my son through hell. Well I failed and he is in hell now. what can I do?

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by LegalBeagle:
[b]
I take back my above response.. I have no intention of posting anymore to this thread. Your treatment to Snoopy1 is unacceptable.


[This message has been edited by LegalBeagle (edited October 17, 2000).][/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Thank you for what you did post I appreciate it. I didnt come here to argue.

Peace out,
Monica