medical bills

at the support agency in ohio where my husband went to determine support (his choice) the papers say he has to pay 57% of medical bills after she pays the deductible and the first $100 uncovered. But the papers also say both parties must follow the directions on the order. It says that she will be forwarding bills to my husband so he can pay his part. But before that is stated she has to provide us with proof she paid the deductible and first 100 and supply us with all the insurance information and proper card. She has given us nothing and no proof. Knowing her the bills will roll in shortly, she looks at the papers and sees what money he has to put out but always misses what she has to do. If she sends us no information and no proof but the bills start rolling in, would we be right to not pay any bills until she follows the proper steps? She should have read her papers too. The purpose of her having to send us all the proof and ins. info. is to prevent her ripping us off. Should we not pay until she follows her instructions? Seems fair. Then when she figures it out and stops only looking at what is in it for her we will pay.

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jamiet:
[b]at the support agency in ohio where my husband went to determine support (his choice) the papers say he has to pay 57% of medical bills after she pays the deductible and the first $100 uncovered. But the papers also say both parties must follow the directions on the order. It says that she will be forwarding bills to my husband so he can pay his part. But before that is stated she has to provide us with proof she paid the deductible and first 100 and supply us with all the insurance information and proper card. She has given us nothing and no proof. Knowing her the bills will roll in shortly, she looks at the papers and sees what money he has to put out but always misses what she has to do. If she sends us no information and no proof but the bills start rolling in, would we be right to not pay any bills until she follows the proper steps? She should have read her papers too. The purpose of her having to send us all the proof and ins. info. is to prevent her ripping us off. Should we not pay until she follows her instructions? Seems fair. Then when she figures it out and stops only looking at what is in it for her we will pay.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


You have a few choices.. but first I would suggest you write her a letter and explain what she has to do, quote the order and let her know, nicely, that she has to follow the court order.

Are the bills coming direct to you are do you think she will just forward the lot later ? ie, whos name is on the bills ?

The thing is that she has been such a hag through all of this, why should we tell her what she is missing? She makes everything as hard as she can for us! The bills will be in her name or the babys name i am sure becasue she is responsible for holding med. ins. We will probably pay to the docs. And knowing her i am sure she will call the docs every week to see if he is paying his part. Should we wait until she complains to her lawyer and let him tell her. Also, she thinks he should pay 1/2 of her prenatal care. They werent married and he was not present during the pregnancy. She had her own insurance. Why should he pay for what she chose to do with her body? Isnt that a down side for her for having sex before she was married? Now, 1/2 the babys bills I agree are his but HER prenatal care? And can she bring that up in our visitation hearing? Dosent she have to take us in seperate for that? See, she is all about money, like i siad before she would like support and him with no visit. What do you do with people like her.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jamiet:
[b]The thing is that she has been such a hag through all of this, why should we tell her what she is missing? She makes everything as hard as she can for us! The bills will be in her name or the babys name i am sure becasue she is responsible for holding med. ins. We will probably pay to the docs. And knowing her i am sure she will call the docs every week to see if he is paying his part. Should we wait until she complains to her lawyer and let him tell her. Also, she thinks he should pay 1/2 of her prenatal care. They werent married and he was not present during the pregnancy. She had her own insurance. Why should he pay for what she chose to do with her body? Isnt that a down side for her for having sex before she was married? Now, 1/2 the babys bills I agree are his but HER prenatal care? And can she bring that up in our visitation hearing? Dosent she have to take us in seperate for that? See, she is all about money, like i siad before she would like support and him with no visit. What do you do with people like her.[/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


I am trying to make sense out of this situation... trying to piece it together from the 6 different posts...
Ok, please correct me if I am wrong here...
1. You are married to a man that has a 7mos old child from previous relationship.
2. You have never had visitation with the child.
3. You have just recently gotten the support order in place.
4. You ALREADY have a nursery set up for a child that you may possiby not even get overnight visitations with for another 2-3 yrs?
5. Your support order is what a couple of days old and already you are needing advice in enforcing certain guideleines?

My opinion...
You are looking for trouble where there isnt any.

I would suggest you sit back, let all the visitaion, custody and other matters get worked out. Then WHEN there IS a problem, worry about it then...