Mom not letting us talk to kids and refused visetation

We live in CA my husbands ex-wife in KS, we are appealing the child custody, ever sence she got served with the brief, she will not let us see the children and now refuse to let us see the children over spring break! I know we can file contempt charges but that is just a little slap and shes just going to be told not to do it! What else can we do? She says that she is taking the kids to a judge so they can say they want to live with her? But they are not at an age were then can decide were they want to live need some advice, why does this stuff happen?

People like that should not exist in our world.I am going through a similar problem.But I am the mother who gave joint custody and residential to their father.I have not seen or spoken to my children in 2 years.The court system stinks.They know that he has violated the court order since day one.Yet they keep giving him a million chances to show up in court.He keeps hiding.They know he's hiding.My advise to you is,get a lawyer,go to court and start the proceeding as soon as possible.It's not going to be easy and it will take some time.Sooner or later she will hang herself because she thinks she is getting away with it.As far as the kids making the decision of where they want to live.They have to be 12 years and up for the courts to hear them.Hang in there,it will take some time.Good luck.

Believe me i know where you are coming from . My husband x-wife only let us see or talk to the kids on her terms only and we have joint custody . In your case, You all probably threaten her and she thinks running is going to help . You have to be patient and it will all come to a head . Documentate everytime she refuses to let you see or talk to the kids this will hold up in court and believe me no judge is going to look to kindly on that kind of behavior. Yes I agree about taking her to court for contempt all that does is make the lawyers richer because they never do anything to them but give them a warning. Really how long to you think it will be before she contempt it again? Good luck!