need help bad this is a new one

i have just recieved a court order to appear in court.from my ex boyfriend....he is taking myself and my ex husband to court because he wants custody of my 15 year old daughter. My ex husband lives in ohio and has my 13 year old son. I live in Maryland and have my 15 year old daughter, my ex boyfriend has a wife and a son and travels with a carnival and wants my daughter as a worker amoung other perveted things.
I have filed an ex parte to have him stay away from her and have to appear in court this wenesday for that ....he has threatened to kidnap her. ALso if this goes to court I'm afraid this guy has her so brain washed and so messed up in the head that she will want to go with him....What can i do to keep this crazy person away from my child....and to stop this from happening in court?????
Hes a 43 year old man and I let her work for him for 2 days 6 weeks ago and found out that he created a situation where my daughter had to sleep in bed next to him and am at this time not sure what really took place there. really need help on this one......can an ex boyfriend who is not the childs father really take her away from me????

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[This message has been edited by Always searching (edited October 14, 2000).]

Carny Life! To a 15 year old, all the lights, the noise, the excitement, etc. is ssoooo attractive, right?
What I don't understand is why you think that the courts would actually grant the guy
any time with her at all, and I make the assumtion that you let her go 6 weeks ago because it sounded like fun to her.
Given what you've posted here(the fact that he has no blood relationship with her, etc) I couldn't imagine any Judge giving him any kind of contact with her.
So, go to the hearing, without the child.
Try to keep her busy this summer, and if you can afford to do some things with her,
do as much as you can.
Of course, every day she's 'bored' (mine get bored easily) she'll be thinking of the show- the carnival.
If she runs, get the police involved, charge him with kidnapping, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, shoplifting, jay-walking, and spitting in public.
I know the issue is serious for you, but I don't see the Judge ruling in the guys favor.
Please post the outcome. PS

thank you for replying papa smurf....helps ease my mind alittle however one thing still concerns me ...it says on the summons any child age 5 or older shall be present...so i guess i have to take my daughter to the hearing and she is going to say she wants to live with him.....thats what has me worried the most....do you think the judge will listen to that??????

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Always searching:
[b]File charges, call the 1800childlost number and report it. There are people that have been through this. Call anyone the police or family center. Get her away from the situation. There seems to be something more to this. [/b]<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
there is a whole lot to it...she is with me now i have an ex parte but hes still trying to take her away ....he wants to marry her when she turns 18....hes sick

Is this order to appear based on his request, or is it pre-printed on the form, due to it being a hearing concerning kids?
I'm not clear, sorry, if it's based on a TRO, a complaint from you.
You have the natural right to protect your child. Wish I was there. My Step-dad ran with a show about the time he and my mom got together, and I worked summers when they were close by.
If it's about needing her to work, it's long, long hours, dangerous work, and NO PLACE for a kid. Is the Father going to be there? Arguement being that the time would interfere with the bio-father's time with her, Write back-PS

thanks for your reply papa smurf.....no neither mother or father are going to be there my ex boyfriend is trying to take her away from both of us! She was born and raised in the carnival.....i traveled with the carnival for amost 20 years on and off. hes just my ex boyfriend. She just dosn't want to live a "normal" stable life now....on the court papers it just says that any child over 5 must appear it is written in a standard contract on the order of the court form.
i lived with this guy actually had an affair because hes married and he feels he has the right to take her from me. I left the carnival, have a good paying job and a nice home, and he feels he feels he would be better living in a camper and moving every week and working all those hours......the bad part is she wants to go. And thats what worries me. Again thank you for the advise.

the order for her to appear is in the standard contract. How ever in the ex partea i have i have already been granted custody but i have to go to court this wednesday and finish the ex partea, I am worried because I have to appear alone she does not have to appear at this trial only the one where he is trying to take her away from me and her father in august. Adleast by that time the carnival will be almost over and school will be getting ready to start i will have that on my side i think..... I'm also worried because he is such a lyer and has threatened to lie in court about me

He's got no blood ties, right? After Wednesday, force the DNA issue, if he can even be found. There's no laws anywhere that would REQUIRE You to give her up to the ex-boyfriend, taking her away from a stable home, But to sure, there's an attorney in our area of Mass. who will give you the first consultation, at a reduced rate.
Some shows are alright, I still think you were right to get out. Would like to know Wednesday after the hearing. PS

thanks for the advise papa smurf....need a lawyer in maryland though and the court case we have to go to is in PA... i filed the ex partea in MD, but he filed in PA for custody ao i guess i need a pennsylavinia lawyer.