never married with questions

Short history..I am divorced with kids. Father of daughter is divorced with kids.
Was involved for 5 years. We were suppose to get married but because of problems with his kids we didnt. Son of his threatened me and wanted OUR child to die before being born. Tried to hurt me while preg with daughter.
His daughter had to be sent off because of problems. Also had sexual fantasies about father. Was in therapy until it was said she needed to spend more time with mom...(father refused so out of therapy she came)
After getting out found out that it was confirmed he molested his child but never convicted. (have copies of the papers from social services from his ex wife)
(he was suppose to go for counseling for that and DIDN'T)
he now wants joint custody with daughter (well he did. havent heard from him in 8 months now.)whom he hasnt seen in 9 months and has not supported for the past 17.
there is NO orders at all and he is on the BC and she has his last name..
Is there anyway for me to go to court and get sole custody without him knowing..
or if he does take me to court can i file for all the back support he hasnt paid.
He has paid in the past with checks and cash. I would never say he didnt pay when there was times he did..

Any suggestions would be appreciated

Get an attorney, go to court and file for sole custody.. he will have to be served so he will know. He will probably contest. Ensure you provide proof of everything and lack of relationship, visits, social services reports etc etc..

Also file for child support ... If he wants visitation, get the court to order supervised visitation. This should not be a problem IF you have proof of child abuse.

I have proof locked away in a safe.. Told him a long time ago that if it came down to it all the kids would be called and so would his ex wife and her husband.
I have witnesses and I have paper proof. Even have pics he took of his kids.. some could be questioned.. I love his ex for all she has shared..

If there are no orders in place, then get to court asap and sort it out. You 'should' have no problems getting sole custody. However, despite his history, he will still probably be able to get visitation rights. Just ensure that it is scheduled and supervised. Ensure the court is fully aware of the issues and submit all the proof you have. You can not take any risks that the court will give him unsupervised visitation.

Don't be nice, you are fighting to protect your child !