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ohbratti1
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My brother and sister-in-law were separated 4 years ago and finally divorced 8 months ago. My family has made it clear to my sister-in-law that she is and always will be a welcome part of our family, not just my niece. She has embraced this and is very comfortable and "at home" with us. Three years ago she became involved with a wonderful man. He cares for her and my niece very deeply, which is very reassuring to us. We know that with him in her life, my sister-in-law and niece are in capable, caring hands. Their relationship was on and off for awhile...and is now on full steam. He's in the military and will be spending 2 years overseas. She is considering going with him. I support this decision, as long as my niece's needs are met. I believe it will be an excellent experience for her and my niece. Here comes the problem...my sister-in-law has made mention of asking my brother to relinquish his parental rights. I'm not very clear on her reason for wanting this. My brother loves his daughter and has helped out however he could, but has not always been financially responsible for her. He has improved by leaps and bounds in the last year. Whenever he couldn't provide, my family always stepped in and provided for my niece and sister-in-law. We assisted with everything from rides to work, clothing, food, entertainment, rent...right on down to loaning her money to buy a car. My brother loves his daughter very much and is saddened at the thought of being away from her for 2 years. He realises, however, that "Eddie" and my sister-in-law can provide a stable, traditional family atmosphere and that Eddie has always been there when he couldn't be. He does not want to take that away from my niece and is willing to do whatever needs to be done for my niece's happiness. That's why he (and the rest of the family) were knocked on our butts when my sister-in-law let us know what she wanted. How good are her chances of accomplishing her goal in regard to my brother's parental rights, and what position would that leave the rest of the family in? We're hurt that she would feel it necessary to make this request. We have always been supportive of her and have demonstrated our love to no end. We do not want to "lose" our niece. I don't see the need....my niece can have her dad and Eddie, too, and be twice blessed. Any advice or input?