PARENTS THAT INVOLVE THE CHILDREN!!!

It seems that on this board I hear an awlful lot of how seperated or divorced parents are constantly involving their children in their own battle with their Ex's,i.e. taking the child to the police station to make reports, having the police there when the child is there,battling infront of the children, etc.,etc,. If these people think that the children Do Not hear whats going on or know, THEY ARE WRONG!!! You people need to think of what you are doing & how it affects the child! I am not saying do not document. What I am saying is to keep the children out of it. Life has already been turned upside down for these kids & it is stressful enough.
BE AN ADULT!!!! Children do not need to hear or be involved in your private war with your Ex!!!!! Consider what you are doing and take some time to think about it. Think! Think! Think! Remember you chose to have this child with this person whether it was a one night stand it does not matter. Whenever you put down this other parent around the child or within earshot, in essence you are also putting down this child, for this child is also 1/2 of you & the other parent!!!
For heavens sake-BE MATURE!!!! Your child should not be in therapy for the rest of their lives!!! Remember the children are first.
Anyone out there agree with me or not????
From Mich.

I agree wholeheartedly, and if when you made reference to the taking children to the police dept you are referring to the comment I made about having to take my stepson when we picked him up covered in bruises to get it reported. That was a CYA situation, we did that so that she could not turn around and try to say we put the bruises on the child when we returned him to her. Mind you, he was 3yrs old, had a black eye (from the ex's dad) for not eating his dinner a couple of nights prior, another time he had belt mark bruises up and down his back and legs, still not sure who put those there. Being a single parent i do not agree with picking and looking for trouble where it isnt, but if it is there, document it and at least protect yourself.

I completely agree with you 100%. i wish all parents thought like that , but in my case all my husband x - wife thought about was hurting my husband, and she would use the children to do it . It was a very painful situtatin for everyone including the children . My husband x-wife told his baby girl which was 3 at the time that he was not the father if her that her boyfriend is , that child now 8 is still a very confused kid , they had to put her in counceling at school. The children get the worse end of it **************