Please help and advise me what to do..

I am 19 years old, lived in Philippines. I dont know where to seek a legal advice from my country so i will try here.
I am 3 mos. preg. Been disowned by my family because i was fooled and cheated by an American/caucasian man who lived in Tampa. He promised to marry me, fall into all his lies. He gotten me pregnant but I do not know HE was Married, he just tell me now am 3 mos pg. He will be supporting me while am pregnant but I have to sign a contract saying that I will giving up my baby to him and to his wife. I was been fooled and made a mistake but giving my child is another mistake. Isn't it i have the right that he must be supporting me and my baby? one thing too, when i give birth they will take my baby with them in the US ( I can't let this things happen but i dont know what to do..Is there anything i could do so that i can have my child custody and get a support to his/her father? Please Help, i need to know..it's killing me thanks for reading..

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Needed Help about my baby, i am pregnant right now and i was been fooled and cheated...

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ana19:
[b]I am 19 years old, lived in Philippines. I dont know where to seek a legal advice from my country so i will try here.
I am 3 mos. preg. Been disowned by my family because i was fooled and cheated by an American/caucasian man who lived in Tampa. He promised to marry me, fall into all his lies. He gotten me pregnant but I do not know HE was Married, he just tell me now am 3 mos pg. He will be supporting me while am pregnant but I have to sign a contract saying that I will giving up my baby to him and to his wife. I was been fooled and made a mistake but giving my child is another mistake. Isn't it i have the right that he must be supporting me and my baby? one thing too, when i give birth they will take my baby with them in the US ( I can't let this things happen but i dont know what to do..Is there anything i could do so that i can have my child custody and get a support to his/her father? Please Help, i need to know..it's killing me thanks for reading..

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You do not have to sign anything and do not have to give up your child. As regards to support, well, once they leave and move to the US it will be very difficult, if at all, to be able to pursue a regular paycheck.

Is this person in the US Forces ? Ie, does he wear a Uniform sometimes ? because if he does, then you may have some luck contacting his base commander and informing him of what is happening.

Otherwise, just take all the help and money you can while he is still paying.. but sign nothing and do not give up your baby. Of course how you will suvive when he leaves is another matter.

[usmcfamily]

LB....just a quick question...why the assumption of the man in question being a member of the service?? I hate to suddenly find myself becoming one of the "emotional responders" who proliferate these boards but can't help but wonder if that is meant as a simple inquiry or an assumption on your part in regards to the men and women serving our country? Granted we see plenty of post regarding the military men/women of the US on here but then again there are just as many about bankers, doctors and garbagemen for that matter....just a thought for you all if that is at all where that was going. If not, my most humble apologies but stepping on the toes/reputation of the military as a whole in reflection to the few losers we read about here is too much to take when my husband is thousands of miles away in harms way protecting the very people who post here...my ranting done I certainly hope I haven't offended anyone as that was NOT my intention....I was just curious. If he does turn out to be one of the less admirable among our fleet I am very sorry but LB is right ...you will need to contact his command and tell them your WHOLE story ....he will not be looked kindly upon (especially in he and his wife's attempt to steal your child in such a way) and not only will the issue of support/custody be addressed he may also face further charges/problems through the service itself. May only take a little talking to by his CO and your life will likely get a LOT easier! And to LB...if he is military you have my MOST humble apology - believe it or not majority of the men/women who serve are NOT that way
To the young lady .....LB is right...you have a tough road ahead of you in regards to attempting to collect any form of support...I can only assume from what you have written you are still a legal citizen of the Phillipines? If so, you are unfortunately on the VERY HARD side of this battle! However, in regards to signing away your child -- just let them try that. You are young and he is using that against you by intimidating you into doing things you don't have too. Being a single mother where you are in life right now will NOT be easy but if you are determined you will make it....but DON"T give up your child out of fear! You have plenty of rights.....I suggest you go about finding out about them in your local community first....try the magistrates of your hometown and go from there.....ask until you get your answers. Just one last thought....not always wise to involve the governments but as a last resort you can be sure your government would not look kindly upon an American couple attempting to extort your child from you!! Do what you have to do!

[LegalBeagle]

I can not think of many other reasons for an American family to be living in the Phillipines... it was more of a question than an assumption.

[LegalBeagle]

Of course, I also remember reading that there were planning closing the bases down.. so no idea if there are any American forces there...

LB..& usmcfamily
Thank you for the advices. Yes He's in the military, working in USAirforce(system Administrator) based in Florida and She is married to a Filipina, so that's why they would like me to put on this situation, because they could come back anytime here in the Philippines and they'd even told me, they will do the papers or contract in Manila. i will try my very best, i want this man pay on what he did to me (well her wife is aware of what he is doing lately and am not the only one who's the victim. I want a justice and also i dont want this things happen again to anyone ) I am not doing this just for myself but also the sake of my child. Giving up to them is not a solution, I dont want my child grow up to dishonest people! I know it will be very difficult because they are in the US. What my chances..contacting his base commander and I will tell them the whole story. Yes, I actually has a pic of him wearing the Uniform and if it would help me..i am willing to serve that as my evidence. I know alot about him and i know his addresses too. Is there a way how contacting his base? I just dont know what to do first, I know i must seek a help here locally but it's impossible that they could help, i heard alot of stories that they would just laugh to those who had been on this kind of situation All i want is..to get a custody/support without any contact to be sign before and after I give birth. I want him to support my baby, not take it away from me..and i wanna prove that not all filipinas just looking after them because of dollars! that's a big nonsense!!! So i would like a help to those who are helpful enough..I wanted some information how to contact his base and what move to do..Thank you LB and usmcFAmily!!!

ana19

All i know is that the military DOES NOT think highly of one of it's own when it comes to adultry. You should NOT give him your child b/c he basically wants you to allow him and his wife to adopt your child. I don't understand how his wife could go along with taking this child away from it's mother. Don't let him bully you into thinking that he can give your child a better life than you can.
Yes He's in the military, working in
USAirforce(system Administrator) based in Florida and She is married to
a Filipina, so that's why they would like me to put on this situation,
because they could come back anytime here in the Philippines and
they'd even told me, they will do the papers or contract in Manila. I do not understand this sentence. Who is she? Are you saying that he is married to a Filipina and they are saying that they can return with the child at anytime for you to see him/her? They can't take your baby from you and you do not have to put his name on the birth certificate. If you don't do that, he can't take the child from you. Am i correct in saying that?

[LegalBeagle]

Navy: Just bad English.. He is married to a Filipina so can return anytime.

usmc: Well, I was right about the military but totally off about his current placement

ana19: All I can suggest of that you contact his boss or the base commander and explain everything. If you can get proof of what they are trying to do then all the better. Your 'fear' that they turn up once the child is born and just take him/her is indeed a worry, but only if they remain in the Philippines. Even if his name is on the Birth Certificate, he will still have a problem taking the child to the US. You could always contact your local police and let them know what he is up to. Then tell him and his wife that there will be no adoption and see what there reaction will be. Best to do this before the child is born.

So the question is to Child Support.. and that will be a lot harder. I have no idea if a foreign national is able to petition a US court and order Child Support payments to a child in another country.

Someone else might be able to help you with regards locating his base etc..