pretrial?

MSM, legal beagle, and ladyblu: please dont respond if you are going to beat me down! I have questions!

Yesterday we got a paper in the mail for a pretrial date. We spent hundreds of dollars on the phone with our lawyer asking exactly what was going to happen after bm was served her papers for court and nobody said anything about a pretrial!? We were told the actual court date would be set 2-3 weeks from when she was served. What happens in a pretrial? Shes not going to agree to let him have anything he wants just because he wants it. She is going to make this as hard as possible-she already told him that. So, what do we do in a pre trial?

[MySonsMom]

I suppose a pretrial is where you all try to come up to a conclusion if at all possible. If nothing gets accomplished, then it will go to trial. That is my understanding, and if I'm wrong someone please correct me.

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*There is no love, like the unconditional love of a Mother*

-I am not an Attorney, any advice given is strictly advice-

thank you for answering!=)
bm already told my husband she will not let him even have the minimum. We know it will go to trial. Just stressed! My husband is a wreck, all he wants is minimum visitation! surely the judge will see her attitude and unreasonability in pretrial! you think? How could he now get the minimum? our attorney says we will get at least that, when do they not give the minimum?

[MySonsMom]

They don't give the minimum when there is something major on that parent. Abuse, neglect, a threat to the child etc...If you husband is clean then there is no need to worry. She is being uncooperative because she wants to. Be patient, and go to court. Your husband has rights, and will get them. It may not be exactly what you want, but take what you can. It will be better then what you have now. Good luck!

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*There is no love, like the unconditional love of a Mother*

-I am not an Attorney, any advice given is strictly advice-

thank you msm.

it just sucks waiting. especially when you know the mother is going to come up with any excuse for him to get less and you hear from your own attorney the judge favors mothers.

we have been stressing since before the baby was born because we knew the mother was going to do this.

just nervous and dont want her to hurt my husband anymore.