rights

sons dad hasnt been around his whole life sons 3 yrs old,dad now wants to see him there was an original court order for custody,visitation and support which he`s always paid,but he refuses to go by the original visitation schedule,or make up new one,he wants to take him several times a week, I think every 2 weeks is plenty,it`s to disruptive to our lives, he`s someone i`d prefer not be around my son at all, so I only want to do what I have to,what are my rights,

Until there is an official change (in the courts) of the visitaion schedule..you don't have to do anything that is not in the original order. If he wants the visitation schedule changed, let him file a motion in the courts.

Good Luck

yes I know but he`s threatning to get custody if i dont let him see him which i know he doesnt stand a chance of getting and he`s just showing up and exspecting to get him,our arguments have been very hostile I hate living my life looking out windows and being afraid when he`ll show up,

The courts will only do a change of custody if there are circumstances where the child would be in danger in your care. So don't worry!!! He is only playing mind games with you and they are working. He knows the only way to get to you is through this child. My ex did the same to me. So I called his bluff one day, ( I was so mad, and rarely lose my temper ) I told him to call his lawyer, because mine would be contacting him. I called mine on Monday, he backed off on that issue real quick. Now he knows I know what my rights are and he can't threaten me anymore.

If he comes to get the child and it is not his visitation time, and refuses to leave without the child, call the police and when they arrive show them the court ordered visitation and when they see it is not his time for visitation they will make him leave. If he continues to show up unanounced, get a restraining order. He'll quite when he sees your not afraid of him. He's feeding on your fear. Be brave and strong and don't let him break you, no matter how scared you are......DON'T let him see that.

Good luck and God bless