should I sue ???

met wife, she had two kids, 7mos,&19mos, she
had high school edu., I am technician never
made less than $10hr, done all the things
a husband and father should for 16 yrs, including help wife get a masters degree,while she made $5and$6 parttime, the
real father never paid a cent and never came
around til one child was 18 and one 17, 6 months later im left with the house and $1000
payments, sh makes $17,000 more than me a yr.

[MySonsMom]

What exactly are you asking? What do you want from her?

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I have helped her get in a position where she can make $70,000 in a year or two and I am left with $35,000 a year. I feel she owes me something other than a divorce after being the husband I was and the only father her kids have ever known for 16 years. The first year we were not married.

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some of the money she is going to make from my help over 16 1/2 years

[MySonsMom]

I don't really know what to say about this one. If she has left you with bills and a house, you can always go after her thru the divorce for her share of the debts in the marriage. But honestly I don't think you can do anything about what you have done for her in the past, and the help that you have given her. Just because you obviously agreed to help her as you did, you just didn't anticipate the outcome to be this. Sounds like you are bitter and are wanting to *get her back*...I understand that you are bitter and upset but I don't honestly think you can do anything because she makes more money than you. The debts that were created during the marriage are now shared debts, and you can have her pay her share but I don't think she owes you any future money that she will earn. That is her money, not yours. (Regardless if you are partly *responsible* for her new elevated income bracket) I would suggest, trying to get on with your life without living everyday to *get her back*..That is certainly no way to live. Focus on yourself now, and try and better your income if *money* is what you want. Good luck to you!

[This message has been edited by MySonsMom (edited May 26, 2000).]

Very interesting concept. Wasn't Joan Lundon from daytime TV surprised when the man she divorced was granted a huge "palimony" settlement. Would be quite interested in the outcome.

To MySonsMom,
Are you Dr. Laura Schlessinger or what?
No wait you seem to nice to be her. And you have some very good information. The only thing he can do is make the divorce messy by fighting for a portion of her possible income in the future. Trust me it is not worth it. The attorney's fees will take up more then he could possibly get anyway.