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jstme22ooo
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My question is difficult but here goes
it. Ten years ago I had a son. I was
only eighteen,wild,and foolish to an
extent. I got married but was not ready.
After the father and I seperated my son
spent alot of time at his aunts house so
he coud see his father and I have to
admit so I could be the teen I wanted to
be. (not sure if the father actually
went to see him or not) A month earlier
I was investigated by DHS and was found
not to be abusive. I started dating
again and one night when I got home my
ex was in the house. (roomates with his
sister) they were having a party and
total chaos started so I decided to
leave the house for the night to let
everyone cool down. The next day I get a
phone call saying that my son had been
taken away and that my house had been
trashed. My ex and a few others admitted
to trashing my place and calling DHS and
saying that my place was always like
that but DHS did not care because I
would not submit to a drug test they
gave custody of my son to him. It has
been nine years since I have seen my
son. Not a day goes bye that I do not
think about him and how his father is
taking care of him. The last I knew the
father told my boy that I was dead. He
hasn't even made an attempt to keep in
contact with my side of the family so my
son knows none of myside. Now to my
question- I do pay child support but
since it has been so long,should I leave
well enough alone and hope that when he
gets old enough he will come looking for
me or do I actually request to see him
in a supervised visit? (I wont go near
his farther or his family unprotected)
confused????
it. Ten years ago I had a son. I was
only eighteen,wild,and foolish to an
extent. I got married but was not ready.
After the father and I seperated my son
spent alot of time at his aunts house so
he coud see his father and I have to
admit so I could be the teen I wanted to
be. (not sure if the father actually
went to see him or not) A month earlier
I was investigated by DHS and was found
not to be abusive. I started dating
again and one night when I got home my
ex was in the house. (roomates with his
sister) they were having a party and
total chaos started so I decided to
leave the house for the night to let
everyone cool down. The next day I get a
phone call saying that my son had been
taken away and that my house had been
trashed. My ex and a few others admitted
to trashing my place and calling DHS and
saying that my place was always like
that but DHS did not care because I
would not submit to a drug test they
gave custody of my son to him. It has
been nine years since I have seen my
son. Not a day goes bye that I do not
think about him and how his father is
taking care of him. The last I knew the
father told my boy that I was dead. He
hasn't even made an attempt to keep in
contact with my side of the family so my
son knows none of myside. Now to my
question- I do pay child support but
since it has been so long,should I leave
well enough alone and hope that when he
gets old enough he will come looking for
me or do I actually request to see him
in a supervised visit? (I wont go near
his farther or his family unprotected)
confused????