I live in Louisiana and my boyfriend and I split up a little over a month ago. He has a drinking problem and a lifestyle that I can not allow myself or our child to be a part of anymore. I have willingly let him and his family to come visit anytime that they want. There have been several occasions when he has called and stated he was coming for a visit and doesn’t show. Sometimes he calls very early in the morning and shows up very late at night. When he does show, he often has a drinking buddy with him, and pays very little attention to our child. So, I’m spending a great deal of time waiting around for him to spend time with her.
He is now living with his parents and they are pushing me to allow him to take her on weekends. His father refuses to come visit her here. When his mother visits she usually tries to pick an argument or makes comments like they have been talking to a lawyer and I should go ahead and let them take her on weekends. I want her father to spend time with her, but I am terrified to put her in his care, especially on a weekend.
I have a friend that has been in a similar situation. He has advised me not to let him take her until we have worked out something legal. He said that when he and his child's mother split up, he dropped the children off for an afternoon visit. When he went to pick them up the mother refused to give them back. He called the local police and they told him to hire a lawyer and take her to court. If I allow my child's father to take her for a visit, do I take the chance of not getting her back?
I have a letter he has written me earlier in the year, asking me to take him back. In it, he admits he has a drinking problem and he may need help. If we do end up in court, what are the chances of him getting her on weekends.
Any advice will help. | 
09-12-2000, 10:31 AM
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